Reconciling with estranged family after apology

[Deleted member 47632]

i dont have contact with my family after my parents died eight years ago..one side of the family i stopped talking to when i was young for how they treated my mother and the other side of the family erased me as my mother was dieing from terminal cancer so i got no family my familyis my wife and hers i am thankful for them

every family member except my parents RIP wanted me back on my anti depreessants etc that i previously was on for 15 years ad now i am 11 years totaly MED FREE i wont even buy asprin the thought of pills makes me dry heave...but i am not the only cousin my family has erased all of my cousins thar ARENT sucessful or have problems like myself are COMPLETLY ERASED from the familys existance so screw them...matter a fact i had a younger cuz die from herion last year and NOBODY except me and one other cuz called or help donate money for the fueneral i meanNOT 1 FAMILY member from my side called the mother/my aunt or his sisters NOPE only the mothers side called the family so screw em

 

[shimmerz]

ARENT sucessful or have problems like myself are COMPLETLY ERASED from the familys existance so screw them...matter a fact i had a younger cuz die from herion last year and NOBODY except me and one other cuz called or help donate money for the fueneral

I feel like Walt Disney movies should be banned. I was filled with expectations when I was young that family stuck together; helped one another; cared about one another.

But then again, given how they treated me when I was young, I now see how it was them and not me. Good for you for standing up for your cousin and showing that they mattered to you. That's brave.

 

[Friday]

I feel like Walt Disney movies should be banned. I was filled with expectations when I was young that family stuck together; helped one another; cared about one another.

:hilarious: My son feels the same way, for the opposite reason!

- Your childhood best friend grows up into someone who has to kill you
- Your parents are killed 9:10, and the 10th they’re either trying to kill you or left you with a psychopath.
- Only the evil people are smart, everyone else is stupid and relies purely on luck, which is so bizarrely one sided that he can’t understand how it keeps working.
- Apparently most people spend about 1/3 of their lives hallucinating talking animals, furnishings, and musical dance routines

Disney gave him such horrible nightmares we had to issue a full ban on them in his early years, and even as a teenager he looks at them with severe mistrust. “What horrible thing are they going to sing about, today? Shall we poison our step kids, or trade sexual favors with a baboon, or commit acts of genocide? FFS. How do they even get this past the censors???”

He was perfectly fine with Grimm’s fairy tales. But Disney gives him the heebie jeebies.

 

[shimmerz]

My son feels the same way, for the opposite reason!

I think gender might play into this one. Gender roles were very specific in Disney. Old school Disney anyway. I don't watch the stuff now. But for me, I got the message that shit would happen but:
- I could count on that male in shiny armour would come along at last minute and we would all live happily ever after - no matter what had happened
- There are always bad people that target innocent young girls (I could never figure out why it was always innocence they targeted though - why didn't they just out and out target he shiny armour dude?
- That bad people were always ugly. Makes it easy right? Just look for the guy with no front teeth, twisted back, messed up (in a bad way) hair, with a scar on his face.

- Only the evil people are smart, everyone else is stupid and relies purely on luck, which is so bizarrely one sided that he can’t understand how it keeps working.

I hadn't thought of this one for some reason buy now that you mention it, it is front and centre as well. Thanks for this.