Rejected therapist woke up and chose to attack boundaries, again

[Justmehere]

I am in a badddd headspace after a therpaist lost her mind again. I went to a agency for help. It was awful. I left. The “therapist” they assigned won’t leave me alone. She was given notice to stop contact. She still has an appointment for me on tomorrow. I canceled it. She said I’m not allowed to cancel.

This is exactly why I refuse to see her. Any boundary I set she sees as a challenge to trash it.

She called me 37 times in 90 minutes this afternoon. For every call I answered and hung up. I don’t want her having access to anything to leave me any messages. I started blocking phone numbers and she started using other lines. She would call, say her name, and I would hang up on the new number she was using. Staff told her to stop. She didn’t stop. Staff removed authorization to call me. She didn’t stop.

Yeah, yeah, I know law enforcement is an option but then my mental health info is public. I told another agency that is supposed to meet with them tomorrow and they hold their biggest contract and can yank it- they won’t- but they asked them to stop.

I blocked all their contacts so whatever, it can’t reach me anymore.

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I could use advice about how to clear my head and being. I am now really off the edge scared to leave my home. I had nightnares all night about the prior boundary busting act and now this today.

She can’t reach me anymore.

 

[OliveJewel]

Really bizarre! Sorry you are dealing with that!

In terms of clearing headspace I think I would keep telling myself that this is not about me it’s about them and I just randomly got caught up in other people’s chaotic drama. And I would tell anyone I could about it to continue to receive validation.

 

[EveHarrington]

For the love of God I hope you have an Android. If you have an iPhone, don’t look in the blocked messages folder. I have no idea why this even exists. I just got a bizarre VM a few days ago from a blocked contact and yeah, I didn’t need that. (Someone is now having other people he knows call me.) I need a new damn number but it’s going to drive me crazy having to change it everywhere.

 

[Cancelled]

I am in a badddd headspace after a therpaist lost her mind again. I went to a agency for help. It was awful. I left. The “therapist” they assigned won’t leave me alone. She was given notice to stop contact. She still has an appointment for me on tomorrow. I canceled it. She said I’m not allowed to cancel.

This is exactly why I refuse to see her. Any boundary I set she sees as a challenge to trash it.

She called me 37 times in 90 minutes this afternoon. For every call I answered and hung up. I don’t want her having access to anything to leave me any messages. I started blocking phone numbers and she started using other lines. She would call, say her name, and I would hang up on the new number she was using. Staff told her to stop. She didn’t stop. Staff removed authorization to call me. She didn’t stop.

Yeah, yeah, I know law enforcement is an option but then my mental health info is public. I told another agency that is supposed to meet with them tomorrow and they hold their biggest contract and can yank it- they won’t- but they asked them to stop.

I blocked all their contacts so whatever, it can’t reach me anymore.

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I could use advice about how to clear my head and being. I am now really off the edge scared to leave my home. I had nightnares all night about the prior boundary busting act and now this today.

She can’t reach me anymore.

You did all the right things. But it still leaves a residual creepy feeling. If she persists you can get a restraining order. Fear is debilitating. Hope you can find some way of getting a handle on this.

 

[whiteraven]

I could use advice about how to clear my head and being. I am now really off the edge scared to leave my home. I had nightnares all night about the prior boundary busting act and now this today.

She can’t reach me anymore.

So, I know you say she can't reach you anymore, but does she have access to your address? Because here's the thing: if she does, your worries are based on a real and potential concern. You would totally deal with that in a different way than you would worries that are based on something that has no possibility of happening.

I get that you don't want your info "public," but her behavior:

She called me 37 times in 90 minutes this afternoon. For every call I answered and hung up. I don’t want her having access to anything to leave me any messages. I started blocking phone numbers and she started using other lines. She would call, say her name, and I would hang up on the new number she was using. Staff told her to stop. She didn’t stop. Staff removed authorization to call me. She didn’t stop.

is CRIMINAL. And she's clearly unstable.

I think if it were me, I wouldn't feel safe until law enforcement was involved.

 

[Bamma]

I am in a badddd headspace after a therpaist lost her mind again. I went to a agency for help. It was awful. I left. The “therapist” they assigned won’t leave me alone. She was given notice to stop contact. She still has an appointment for me on tomorrow. I canceled it. She said I’m not allowed to cancel.

This is exactly why I refuse to see her. Any boundary I set she sees as a challenge to trash it.

She called me 37 times in 90 minutes this afternoon. For every call I answered and hung up. I don’t want her having access to anything to leave me any messages. I started blocking phone numbers and she started using other lines. She would call, say her name, and I would hang up on the new number she was using. Staff told her to stop. She didn’t stop. Staff removed authorization to call me. She didn’t stop.

Yeah, yeah, I know law enforcement is an option but then my mental health info is public. I told another agency that is supposed to meet with them tomorrow and they hold their biggest contract and can yank it- they won’t- but they asked them to stop.

I blocked all their contacts so whatever, it can’t reach me anymore.

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I could use advice about how to clear my head and being. I am now really off the edge scared to leave my home. I had nightnares all night about the prior boundary busting act and now this today.

She can’t reach me anymore.

With this and other threads about weird therapist behaviours on this forum, I'm beginning to wonder what the qualifications are of some of these "therapists". In some regions at least, "therapist" and "counselor" are not protected terms - anyone can call themselves those things (and do serious harm). I have seen some pretty hokey stuff as a result.

 

[Friday]

I love the hell outta you JMH.

CLEARLY, that response is universal.

One of these days you’re going to twig to having unique/multiple numbers (and emails) you USE, instead of are “yours”, and… life will be easier. Promise. As they can ring/text that number you have dropped/given them access to, a zillion times, and you won’t know about it. At all. As you no longer use it.

Seriously. Next time you “do” anything? Get a unique number/email for them to “reach you” at. Then? If you’re done with them? Delete them. Third tier motherf*ckers.

1st tier… People you ALWAYS want access to/from
2nd tier… People who have “passed” your washout tier.
3rd tier… New people. That you want contact from, for now, until they’ve passed various tests that allow them into your 2nd tier. IE 50-5,000 numbers/emails you don’t give a f*ck about, and are created purely to expedite “normal” life.

It’s infinitely better than blocking.

I usually use police precincts as the “address” required to register various phone numbers / emails. Saves time for me/them (police), and confounds idiots.

 

[Justmehere]

^^^^ LOVE THIS!!!