Relationship Breakdown Before Or After Ptsd

[Abrasky]

One of the symptoms of PTSD is isolation. When I got PTSD I isolated myself from the people in my life. I noticed my relationships with people broke down in the 6 months before I got PTSD. So does in your experience relationship breakdown occur before or after your got your PTSD?

 

[After Sunset]

I destroyed most of my relationships shortly after the traumas which led to me getting PTSD. There was no meaningful delay in the onset of my symptoms, so I suppose I destroyed the relationships simultaneously with developing PTSD. At that time, nearly nine years past now, I was trying to hide from all emotion, and that meant pushing away everyone who might lead to me feeling something again. It took nearly 4 years for me to accept that I really hadn't died that day and start trying to live again. I've recovered some of my old relationships now and made lots of new ones as well, so there is plenty of hope on the far side of that isolation.

 

[Abrasky]

My relationship with one of my brothers was bad when I was a kid. I'm just starting to get memories back as to why that was. Previously thought it was because he was always trying to get reactions and provoke me. Now I realise that it was because I had anger/ hate from my dad attacking me and I put it on my brother. He still was annoying but did not deserve the hate I had put on him. After I got PTSD this bad relationship went to all my other relationships so it became a baggage to all my other relationships. Who thought hate in one relationship could transfer from one to another to another, a bit like a domino effect. I am healing one by relationships one by one in the heart, at the moment I feel good actions didn't matter matter because my heart was broken and wasn't isn't in the right place. It's like PTSD has a domino effect. It multiplies things that are previously not well.

 

[femaleveteran]

I see about telve people a week. They are all veterans in the combat PTSd group I attend.I fell an instant wave of relief there even if most of them are Vietnam veterans. They remind me of my dad. I aint looking to hear that this is in any way a healthy thing. Howver I have become more open to the idea that I maybe there, in the that relationship, are certainn parts of that are broke. And if we cannot fix broke cars then I do not think this is the generation I grew up in,.We should have some idea, by now, how to fix broken souls. I am a ruined so (even if the VA calls in teporarily) that I have to be on tranquilisers to feeel comfortable outside. only high, do I feel you in your normal way of being. I feel I could talke to people if needed, but I do not think they have heard much more than I can say.

I am not trying to intimidate anyone. But I just felt like writing was I was feeling.

 

[Grace11]

I was just thinking about this same topic. Mostly after, however, my relationship with my now ex husband had deteriorated significantly starting about a year before my trauma. I am destroying the majority of my relationships slowly one by one. I've lost many friends. It's been about 5 months since my trauma. I've "lost it" and yelled at almost everyone closest to me at this point. Last night, I told two of my friends that they were horrible friends and that they treated me like crap. That is truly how I felt at the time, but I know it's not okay or fair to them because they've supported me so much. Now I feel myself heading into isolation mode because I don't want to hurt anyone else with my words. I hate myself today. I am actually making a major change and moving away because I cannot continue living this way. I feel like there is nothing left for me here, no family or friends, no career or reputation, nothing I worked so hard for and had before. I need to start over somewhere new and be close to family. I need something to feel positive about. I feel like this is the only chance for me to regain what I lost and what I am now destroying when I am reminded of it every single day.