Sick Of Setbacks, Does God Hate You Too?

[Innordinate]

I don't know, but what I do know is, that every time I got a little better, things would get worse, but that finally stopped after awhile and now it just keeps getting better.

How long is 'after awhile'?

 

[Lionheart]

How long is 'after awhile'?

Hi Innordinate,
I really wish I could say it was just a couple of weeks but it took longer than that.:(

'After awhile' for me, was about a year of intense cognitive-behavioral therapy, before it started "feeling" better, but the time table for healing is different for everyone. That year was the darkest most intensely painful time of my life! I thought I would grieve myself to death before it got better. I couldn't see any light at the end of the tunnel, but I just kept going back to therapy anyway. Little by little, day by day it began to get and feel better.

The overall healing that has taken place in my life happened gradually over a period of many years. My "T" said "Healing from trauma was like growing a fingernail, you don't notice the little changes that occur day by day, but they happen, until one day you look down and have a fingernail."

She also said "Healing was like digging shards of glass out of a wound, it is painful and takes time, but it must be done in order for the wound to heal."

My case, according to my "T" was severe. She put it to me this way..."If a man stepped on a landmine and it blew him into little pieces and the doctors could put him back together, it would be a lengthy and painful process," She said, "I stepped on the landmine." This was her way of telling me that it takes time to heal and that the pain was a natural part of the process.

In the end, it takes as long as it takes, but it will get better if you just continue on a healing path!!!

 

[PTSD sufferer]

Ronin47, that it a lovely phrase/ story from the new testament. I'm glad you shared it and your story of faith. I come from a very religious family, but am not a particularly religious person myself.

Innordinate, I am sorry to hear that things are particularly difficult. But, I believe our purpose in life is simply to live. The problems in the world are man made. Be angry with those that violated your human rights, attribute how much they are responsible for to them. But never give up your right to live a full life.

The recovery process is hard, there is no doubt about that. I had a really tough couple of months this year, but it does get better. I am 1000% better than I was a year ago - then I couldn't leave the house, now I can ;) Have a think about how much you have actually achieved so far, be generous to yourself. You can't eat an elephant all at once, you have to take little bites.

I highly recommend you have a look through the forums on 'achievements and accomplishments'. There are a great deal of success stories that you may find personally empowering - I make a point to read though them weekly. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

You may feel alone and abandoned right now, but we are all here with you, holding your hand, walking alongside you, sharing your pain, loving you for who you are. You are not alone.

Love and hugs, xxoo

 

[mamachick]

livergirl-wow can I relate, I could not have said it better than in your analogy and "a** over t**" humor. That is exactly how I feel, and humor is what saves me.

 

[Jagged Angel]

I often get concerned tat people believe God really does hate them because God is supposed to be loving and how could God allow these things to happen... (and I'm sorry if people get offended by what I'm about to say, but I feel it needs to be said), but God does not interfere in the world in the way that people seem to think God does.

To have the best of all worlds, God gave us free will, and to do that, God would necessarily need to 'bow out' of interfering with our lives and let us get on with it. Now,whilst God-for-the-Christians (as oppsed to, say, God-for-the-Jewish, who is not a benevolent god) is omnibenevolent, that does not mean that God will interfere in every single thing that happens on this earth... Giving humans free will means that bad shit will happen. It does not mean that God does not love you, or that God does not exist, or that God is a bad... god... But what it does mean is that God is allowing us our free will. If God continuously stepped in and fixed stuff, we would never learn, we would expect God to do that, and we would never have appreciation for the consequences of our actions. Unfortunately, this also means that bad shit happens and no one does anything!

After saying all that, I do need to point out that I am not religious in any way, shape, or form.