Freida
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You have no idea how much this pisses me off. I hate, hate, hate it when people need help and they get blown off.1. I didn't report, but got threatened by police that if anyone reported again I'd be charged.
2. I was a witness to a friend dying and they told me it wouldn't have happened if we hadn't been such shits
3. I reported CSA again and just shit f*cked up.
I totally get the moral thing in this. I still feel tremendously guilty for not reporting because his next victim was out there somewhere and I didn't prevent it even though blah blah shot in head risk and such.
So ya - how do you keep a person you know, from personal experience, has no issue harming kids for his own gratification? Especially when there are no kids in immediate danger right now. I know that would be a tough question to answer from my end of the phone call -- if no one is currently at risk there is nothing police can do -- even if it's good cops who want to help. And since they have already dismissed your allegations about him, then they wouldn't necessarily take your concerns about other kids seriously either.
I guess starting with -- what is it that you want to accomplish? Do you want him kept away from any children? Or just kids he knows? Pedophiles are pretty predicable that way -- they hunt in the family/social circle or they hunt in public but usually not both. Or do you want him held responsible for what he did to you? Or is this looking for a way for 8 year old chrissy to be ok with not saying anything when she saw him hurting her brother?
Those questions all have multiple different routes and endings -- and it could be you want all of them. (Which I whole hardheartedly support!). I'm not sure how the legal system works there - but if I were hearing your story here I would suggest starting with your version of Child Protective Services. That's a group that is separate from the police - they work on helping abused kids as a civil agency not a criminal one, though they can bring the police in if needed. And they can guide abused kids who are now adults. They would be the people who could give info on laws, report processes, how many years you have to report, what to do if you think a child is in danger, blah blah.
I don't envy your position. You have this horrible person that you want to protect kids from, who has already hurt you and your siblings, and who pretty much helped destroy your life and figuring out how to keep him from doing it to someone else is gonna be tough. You may not get the outcome you want -- but you will know that you tried. And that may be the most important thing.