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[Sideways]

So sorry @Fadeaway.

This:

She doesn't think she needs therapy and doesn't want to take her meds.

sounds like a teenage brain at work. Remember to be the adult, she’s gonna need that.

 

[Abstract]

Gosh, I am so very very sorry @Fadeaway and so glad for you both that she is out of that and with you. Realise this must hit you in numerous powerful ways.

As a guess I would imagine doing anything possible to help her trust she is safe and can trust you. Always do what you say you will. Be straightforward. Reinforce and say you love her, etc etc even if she doesn't seem to need it. Just some sense of contact with a safe person that cares and constancy can be a good start. Obviously she needs so much more than that longer term.

Can you give her something grounding to hold? A pet rock. A hobby where she uses her hands. Sending you support and care. And her healing.

 

[LuckiLee]

could you see a therapist together? I'm so sorry this happened to you both.

 

[Fadeaway]

She has a lot more issues than I realized. Especially around food, money and body issues. Combined, I am woried that this is a recipe for anorexia. She has horrible guilt about someone buying her things, and even worse with food. She is also incredibly picky. I am a bit of a health but, thrilled if she puts a can of Pringles in the cart versus anything at all. She keeps encouraging hubby and I to get what we want and forget about her.