Steps to go no contact for good

[Deleted member 12723]

Family or not, I shouldn't have to drag this with me for the rest of my life. I'm just so sick of feeling guilty when I walk away.

I agree, I am sorry that you wrestle with feeling guilty. Do you think that part of the guilt could be false guilt? Just a thought.

Eventually you will get tired of standing at that middle line, and one day you might leave the field entirely. That's okay! Some people are toxic, and unfortunately, sometimes they're also our parents.

I think this is a good thought to hang onto for what you are going through, I think. i wish you well.

 

[Beemo3780]

Thanks for all the support.

I had talked with my husband, who has been biting his tongue since before we got married, and just the fact that my father refuses to listen to my concerns or even say, "I'm sorry I didn't know that's how you felt", it's just not ok. Anytime I express my thoughts with my father, he screams at me and shuts me down. And these are things like me telling him that I wish he would call me, or talk to me on the phone, ask about his granddaughter or maybe how the family is doing. I'm in college, he's never asked what degree program I'm in, or how's it been going. I don't think these are unreasonable.

Funny thing is, after I had told my father these things just yesterday, he flew off the handle calling me names and blaming me for things I had nothing to do with (his go to is my mother drove up huge debts before she died), and I went online today, my dad has blocked me on all social media accounts. So, yea, he's a grownup. And yes, I agree 100%, toxic. Any therapist I've seen says the same.