Relationship Still Ignoring Me

[Lilmssunshine]

I almost wish he would stop telling me he loves me. Because I get this false hope that things would get better between us. He is still not answering my texts or calls. It's been about two weeks since we spoke last. I'm afraid I'm gonna just go ahead and block his number and move on. He's an alcoholic and I'm clean. Where's the hope in that?!? I feel like he's avoiding me because he feels ashamed of his abusing alcohol. He hasn't been liking songs on YouTube and has barely posted anything on Facebook. When he isolates he REALLY isolates. It wouldn't surprise me if he's on a drinking binge. I don't know what to do. But cry.. I don't want to be the girl he loves!!!!!! I miss the beginning. Before he loved me! I want to be his homie. I'm in so much pain right now. I don't know what to say to him. I just want my friend back. I miss my friend

 

[Fadeaway]

While I understand why why you want to move on, a relationship with an alcoholic is never good, I give him the courtesy of an explanation. As a sufferer I am a huge isolator. I normally feel very defensive when supporters complain about their sufferer isolating, but I think the alcohol is going to create problems that aren't worth it.

 

[hodge]

I can understand how you feel, but it's up to him whether he will stop drinking or not. I am a sufferer, too, but I do NOT isolate my hubby. He is everything to me. I tell him everything he wants to know, which is not everything, which is okay. I don't want to make him suffer like I do; that's what my therapist is for. I have to agree with Fadeaway. It sounds like the problem with alcohol is really getting in the way of your relationship, and if he won't stop, I don't see a good future for a relationship.

 

[Lilmssunshine]

I'm really grateful him and I didn't bring a child into the world. He asked me to have his baby a year and a half ago and I knew it wouldn't be good. So I never really gave him an answer. I just was scared because I was in active addiction back then. I wrote him an email letting him know I've been sober for over a hundred days. That I'm closer to being able to be the parent I want to be someday. I wrote this email to him two weeks ago. I love him. I wish we could both get to a place where we could have a family. But I have to be prepared to realize he may never be willing to be sober or even get proper help he needs. I'm not even sure if he gets help. I'm heartbroken. I wish I didn't love him. I know he will come back. He always does. But that doesn't make anything any easier to deal with.