Today at work I confronted an obnoxious bully. One of the salesmen where I work is a big guy with a big, booming voice. He tries to intimidate people with his size by looming over them. If that doesn't work, he uses his big voice to try and bully people. He reminds me a whole lot of my dad.
This morning I had to call him on the phone. He was his usual nasty self with a little extra something thrown in for good measure. He starts verbally hammering away at me on the phone and I could feel my throat start tightening up the angrier I got. I thought, 'Nope…not this time' and told him, 'DON'T. Just don't talk to me like that.' Then I proceeded to speak to him about what I called him about. A few moments later I had to call him again with some updated info. I gave him that info and then told him, 'One more thing. Please don't speak to me again like you spoke to me this morning.' He surprised me by apologizing for his actions. Then went back to his normal self by starting a tirade about how he was right for speaking to me like he did. I cut him off by saying, 'Thank you for your apology and good bye' and hung up the phone. I was calm and never raised my voice.
I was really proud of myself for standing up to a bully. Even though I ended up in the ladies room upset and crying when the stress hit me. I have a feeling that standing up to a bully will always be a bit of a trigger for me since I spent so many years being bullied by my dad. But I did it and the tears afterwards were more than worth it!
Lisa
This morning I had to call him on the phone. He was his usual nasty self with a little extra something thrown in for good measure. He starts verbally hammering away at me on the phone and I could feel my throat start tightening up the angrier I got. I thought, 'Nope…not this time' and told him, 'DON'T. Just don't talk to me like that.' Then I proceeded to speak to him about what I called him about. A few moments later I had to call him again with some updated info. I gave him that info and then told him, 'One more thing. Please don't speak to me again like you spoke to me this morning.' He surprised me by apologizing for his actions. Then went back to his normal self by starting a tirade about how he was right for speaking to me like he did. I cut him off by saying, 'Thank you for your apology and good bye' and hung up the phone. I was calm and never raised my voice.
I was really proud of myself for standing up to a bully. Even though I ended up in the ladies room upset and crying when the stress hit me. I have a feeling that standing up to a bully will always be a bit of a trigger for me since I spent so many years being bullied by my dad. But I did it and the tears afterwards were more than worth it!
Lisa
