Taking A Break From Therapy

[ladee]

I haven't been in therapy for many years. Like you, I continued to work on myself tho.. I read a lot anyway, so that helped me find ways to do things differently. I was working on myself before I was diagnosed.. so no change there. I was blessed with good T's... I used a number of them, for different reasons... not just one path for all of us to follow. And being here !!!
Have learned a lot, see many new ways things are being done... but my old way worked too !!!
So, you have a great mind, and are very clear your needs are not being met...and you have a lot of real life stuff going on.... We only have room and energy for so much... then it's just time to make room for our self !!
Just happy you are staying... you don't need to keep clarifying why you made this choice.... the ones that matter hear you and support you... the ones that think this is a bad idea can learn from someone who doesn't follow the beaten path... We can be pioneers if we want to be... I've lived with others rules my entire life.. and always broke the ones that did not apply to me, my own ethics, my own integrity... so sail on lady.... you are fine, just the way you are, walking where you are walking... nothing but support from me and many others.... :hug:

 

[Deleted member 29920]

I will just concentrate on my physical health. I have a lot of problems with it now and am in pain. I doubt I'll ever return to therapy but I'm better without it anyway. Overall it has just made me worse.

 

[Greta]

I have been reading this book The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van Kork. Sometimes talk therapy does nothing but trigger. I am, however, interested in EMDR, Eye Movement Desensitization Reprogramming, a technique which seems to harden off your response to the way you process traumatic events. It seems to reprogram in the way Rapid Eye Movement helps you process thoughts during your sleep cycles. Just throwing that out there.

 

[watundah]

I love this post. You are a strong woman who is taking ownership and you have an excellent outlook. Shoot, walking your dog down the beach sounds like fantastic therapy. I wish I could join you for some peer.counseling!!!

 

[UnKnown-Self]

One of the things I am thinking of doing while walking on the beach tomorrow morning is finding some small/medium sized smooth flat stones. They have to be just the right size so it will take many walks.
I will get a sharpie and write things I want to let go of on them.
Then I will have to have a quiet little ceremony and read each stone before tossing it as hard as I can into bay.
If it feels good enough, I'll do it again and keep doing it because I have a lot to let go of and will need a lot of rocks.
I'll call on my inner spirit, my guardians and the power of the universe to help me. Sunrise would be a good time.

Oddly enough, I have tried to enlist others at various times to do it with me. I was turned down each time. One person came right out and said they couldn't handle it. So I will do it alone. Perhaps it's meant to be that way.

 

[ladee]

I did the same thing with paper, But I burned it. The cleansing of fire. A great idea !! And ya, I think being alone will allow you to really feel how much you let go each time. No distractions. The privacy of you, the sunrise, and healing. Just a beautiful idea. Sending energy for you to find the right stones... very proud of you !!!

 

[Deleted member 12723]

What a beautiful healing ritual you have planned for yourself Alice. You are so creative in the ideas department.

 

[Just Sayin']

Sometimes talk therapy does nothing but trigger.

@Greta

I've started having this issue. It's either a trigger or just an opportunity to intellectualize it. Too many "feels" or not enough.

A lot of times I talk to avoid, and when I do I'm not talking about the right things. It just invents more "issues" ...

The book you recommend has popped up for me a few times over the past week or so. I'll take it as a hint and look into it!

I second the therapy break. You can always go back.

It feels like I can't stay focused on helping "me" in therapy. I'm too busy picking apart the "why"s or talking about specific situations that are really more like side effects or symptoms. I ruminate on thise things rather than facing the big issue, learning better coping mechanisms, or even asking myself "where is this really coming from?" or "what need are you meet with this?"

Obsessive tendencies, rumination, and talking a lot as an avoidance strategy has not really done me any favors in therapy!