Terminal Illness And Acceptance

[Lionheart]

@Kailani and @lostforgottensoul

I think we are on the same wavelength as I wrote the following in my diary earlier today...

"I need to support my sister with her emphysema / COPD and then accept that she is her own person, has her own free will, and will most likely do as she pleases in regards to her healing....I don't need to be a doormat or anything and I can try to set a good example. I can also let her know that her seeming indifference makes me angry, worried, and sad. I can be there for her and love her unconditionally."

I then wrote that I need to focus on some self-care.

I do agree with what each of you has posted on the subject and I appreciate your suggestions and support!!!

I am tired today and am going to keep this short, but thank you for taking the time to write to me about this, it means a lot to me, more than you may know.

much love and respect,

Lionheart

 

[aut555]

Can you tell your sister how important she is to you? At least you can hope she hears the message in back of that. I wish my brother felt that way about me. She knows she is lucky to have you there even though she may not say anything to you.

 

[Lionheart]

Yes, I can tell her @aut555 and hope that she can hear me. I will certainly give it a go!!!

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To all : I want to apologize if during this thread I have sounded fatalistic, I am trying to cope with mortality, the eventualities, the probabilities etc. my sister's illness, my own, etc. and I may not be handling it very well.

I have been a bit of a jumbled mess lately and don't know that my thinking has been clear or productive....I only know that my feelings are strong and are marbled with fears and anxieties and that I am doing my best to adult.

Thanks,

Lionheart

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Lionheart777 I so understand why and how you are trying to cope with what's on your plate right now. For the 7 months after my sister was diagnosed I was up and down with my emotions. It's a tough time, and the most important thing is to take care of you and your emotions.

 

[Lionheart]

Thank you @She Cat for your understanding support, I am grateful!!!

:hug:'s

Lion

 

[mamachick]

Lionheart you don't have to be positive all the time. I think you are being very realistic and seeking tools to cope with what is ahead of you. Sometimes just sharing your situation and hearing what others have experienced is helpful, and knowing you have support here.
God Bless!

 

[The Albatross]

I think you know Lion how reality based I can be. No apology was necessary though conscripting prematurely a "terminal" diagnosis to me was over the top. I do realize that you do have major depressive disorders, have recently placed your mom in a nursing home, and that you are self admittedly thinking about death and dying since your father died in 2012.... but I am not your friend if I don't call you out on magnification/distortions/depressive cycling or grief.

 

[Lionheart]

I think you are being very realistic and seeking tools to cope with what is ahead of you. Sometimes just sharing your situation and hearing what others have experienced is helpful, and knowing you have support here.
God Bless!

Thank you @brat17 , I am trying to be realistic and proactive, both with self-care and care for my sister. It helps so much to get feedback and insight into problems, situations, etc. and I am grateful to you for your support!!!

No apology was necessary

Still, my apology stands and I appreciate and value your friendship, your honesty, and your support!!!

 

[The Albatross]

Listen to me now and believe me later dude, don't conscript "terminal" before your time, eh?

 

[The Albatross]

Hell Lion, look at our Deb? She's got the paper but is beating the hell out of her prognosis.

 

[Lionheart]

Excellent example of a Healing Warrior in my book!!! :tup:

 

[The Albatross]

Chronic illness can't be reversed per se, but it can be held in check, perhaps that's best where you apply your efforts?