There Goes Christmas.....

[Vodi]

omfg!!!!

It was suppose to be a nice Xmas. My bro and sis in law and kid were coming to our parents. He stayed 2 hours, (long enough to eat) then left to play cards and get drunk. Came back at midnight, drunk on whisky and started yelling at me for my political views. I was sitting on the couch with his wife, he walked over and put his phone in my face to read political pics, I told him I didn't want to fight about it and let's have a nice Xmas. (Dad has cancer) He exploded (his undiagnosed PTSD I believe) and they are on their way home, two hours away.
My bro & I have a long back story, we try to be nice to each other but it's complicated.

I wasn't even dreading the holidays. I have been making candy and putting up trees. We were able to give our son some nice gifts, and now I'm sitting here at 2:15 am on Xmas morning. I'm angry he f*cked up Xmas for everyone.

 

[Gepopis]

I have difficult family members as well. Try not to let him f*ck up the rest of the holiday for you. You said he went home well there is still the rest of Christmas today. The movie theaters are open maybe you and your family could go watch a nice movie.

 

[Vodi]

Thanks, your right. I need to get back to the happy place I was before the fight. I can only try to control my thoughts & actions.

 

[Rewe]

I spent 15 years dreading holidays because of an idiot family member. Now I just enjoy my holiday and if they upset me I say "ok I am going to allow myself to be sad/ angry for 5 minutes and then I am moving on".

 

[Vodi]

My dr would say "let it roll off" ;)

 

[Ovecut]

...Sigh...
Apparently, thinking in a way he does not approve of equals some sort of personal affront?
...Have a great day tomorrow, knowing the explosion's over with.

 

[Ozewa]

Good advice here.

I'll just pitch in some cheer.

Happy Christmas! :singing: :hug:

 

[Ekaj]

Sometimes a gift of their presence.

Sometimes a present of their absence.