Recovery4Me
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Before I came to this site, I was unaware that some of my expectations were unrealistic for my Husband “getting it”. I did not want hovering or sympathy because I do not see myself as a victim. However, I wanted to feel heard sometimes concerning flashbacks and the occasional night terrors if I did manage to express it instead of stuffing it. A little empathy from time to time with some constructive feedback or the occasional hug was a serious desire.
Yet for all my good intentions, which included gentle tones, and calming down my phrases from “scared sh*tless” or offering terminology such as hypervigilance (instead of lock and load) I still seemed to just evoke his saucer eyed look or the “OMG she is crazy!” quiet. Not much support or empathy there in those offers! Lol
However, as I showed hubby the site, he was impressed with beauty of the forum’s construction, monitoring staff, number of members and the other half of our equation the term- “Supporters.” *Note (I did not let him invade or read post as he must take that step and sign up himself, should he elect.)
As well, the Health Thread with UP24 Jawbone offered a holistic consideration that came into our home. Because of the support offered here and this device, in this moment I have reached my target weight. I got off my duff. Yes, at times, I still have my vertigo days, however, as soon as I am able I get back up. I did not receive criticism from the team and just started again. No judgment just a goal set.
So I wanted to share, that by feeling heard among our members, getting healthier and being more grounded not only did I “get it”, but he is starting to now too! Funny how that worked, it had to start with me.
So does anyone else want to share?
If not, sincere gratitude to assisting my life in such a direct way!
Yet for all my good intentions, which included gentle tones, and calming down my phrases from “scared sh*tless” or offering terminology such as hypervigilance (instead of lock and load) I still seemed to just evoke his saucer eyed look or the “OMG she is crazy!” quiet. Not much support or empathy there in those offers! Lol
However, as I showed hubby the site, he was impressed with beauty of the forum’s construction, monitoring staff, number of members and the other half of our equation the term- “Supporters.” *Note (I did not let him invade or read post as he must take that step and sign up himself, should he elect.)
As well, the Health Thread with UP24 Jawbone offered a holistic consideration that came into our home. Because of the support offered here and this device, in this moment I have reached my target weight. I got off my duff. Yes, at times, I still have my vertigo days, however, as soon as I am able I get back up. I did not receive criticism from the team and just started again. No judgment just a goal set.
So I wanted to share, that by feeling heard among our members, getting healthier and being more grounded not only did I “get it”, but he is starting to now too! Funny how that worked, it had to start with me.
So does anyone else want to share?
If not, sincere gratitude to assisting my life in such a direct way!
