Relationship To Many Mix Signal....

[chiquitabanana]

I just don't know what to do anymore. I care for my boyfriend very much we been togther for 7 months. i was moving last weekend, He was helping me the stress got to him.. And he stop calling me and text me. I know he need his space, All my friends don't understand PSTD, there telling me to dump him i deserve better. He a very good guy. I Always text him goodnight. Eveybody told me to stop. I don't want to, I want him to know I'm here for him. Please somebody tell me more about PSTD. I need help.. WHAT SHOULD I DO

 

[amethist]

I think you need to start reading and learn all you can chiquitabanana.

Maybe start by reading these links below, then read other threads on the forum, there are plenty of them to keep you going for a few hours.


[DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/understanding-ptsd-by-anthony-parsons.13878/[/DLMURL]

[DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/the-ptsd-cup-explanation.13737/[/DLMURL]

[DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/stressor-vs-trigger-what-is-a-trigger.9903/[/DLMURL]

[DLMURL]https://www.ptsdforum.org/c/wiki/index/[/DLMURL]

Being a supporter is not going to be easy and you needs so much patience and a thick skin. Learning not to take everything personally is not going to be easy either.

I hope you dont mind roller coasters, because this is one hell of a ride.

 

[Bilby]

I can only agree with Amethist - educating yourself is the first, and very important step you need to take. Then you will have a much better understanding of just what it is you are in for, and what your boyfriend is going through. It is only with this knowledge that you will have a better idea of how you should tackle this situation.

I know how hard it is - there are lots of supporters here who know exactly how hard it is. It is never easy to watch someone you love going through something so difficult, and as a supporter, it is also very difficult as we try to process how we feel about what is going on around us and try to maintain an even keel.

 

[amethist]

You also need to take good care of your self too, not relying on him to keep you happy.

Build a life up without him being the center of everything, so when he does have down times, you can still live a good life. If you dont, it can drag you down to the point of needing medication and therapy yourself.

 

[Dallas]

I agree wholeheartedly with Amethist. You MUST concentrate on developing your own life, with your own goals, dreams and aspirations. Let him be...knowing that he is in good hands with God's loving care. And meanwhile, go out and live life to it's fullest!

Sincerely,
Dallas.

PS this is good advice for ANYONE in ANY relationship...PTSD-related or not!