Of course we all have PTSD
So I want to challenge this statement. Yes, you all have the factors that can lead to the onset of PTSD. However, it’s not necessarily an of course. There’s a million and one other personality disorders and mental illnesses that abusive households hand out like candy. I wonder, let’s hypothesize that you all do have PTSD or something equally challenging, can you find compassion for them for their own struggles with their mental health? I know I feel better within myself if I find something compassionate to think or say about someone else rather than see the worst in them and hound on it being their failure. Now for doing that for myself? Different story lol there’s no compassion to be found.
So for example:
Instead of: she’s a manipulative whore
You could try: wow she’s got some seriously high defense mechanisms built up, I can only imagine the amount of pain she’s dealing with that she feels the need to be that armored. I wonder what’s something that can circumvent her defenses and reach her vulnerable core in a way she can respond positively too.
Instead of: viewing a brother as being so beneath your view of success and is a consummate failure.
You could try: geez I can’t help but notice my brother is really struggling. I can only imagine the demons in his head he must be fighting daily that tell him he’s only worth this life. Maybe I can talk to him and see if I can help him get help, perhaps with a therapist so he can unload some of those demons and find his self worth and live much happier.