Relationship Update: No Fairy Tale Ending In Sight

[sisu]

It's all so sad. I too am trying to move on from a 3 year relationship that recently imploded due to the good ole US Army & PTSD. I love this man with every fiber of my being and yet this is not enough. It will never be enough for him because some damn fool at the VA told him he could just take meds and see the psych doc quarterly. I can't convince him otherwise as a civilian - "only someone who served would know and understand", he says.

 

[nursenurse]

And then the unbelievable happened. He actually called and left me a message.

 

[monicaelise]

And then the unbelievable happened. He actually called and left me a message.

Please, please, please tell me you understand that this is not enough. It's absolutely heartbreaking to watch good women hang on to these wisps of what they should see as just normal consideration.

 

[nursenurse]

Nope, not all that is required, more of a "how ironic".

 

[PeekieBlue]

If it weren't for the diagnosis, would you accept any of this? If not, why accept it with the diagnosis? You didn't send this man to war, you didn't cock up his brain or biochemistry. Why are you willing to accept the fallout from the choices he and others have made? Even if you believe that his current state is the result of things beyond his control, were you the one responsible for his state? If not, why forfeit your own well-being for him?

I realized this past week that I, personally, don't care why someone is hurtful, or inconsiderate, or just thoughtless. I don't want to hook my wagon to someone who treats me that way, regardless of whether that person has every legitimate reason in the world for being that way.

Well said, I couldn't agree more!