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Valentine's Day - What Plans Do You Have?

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Nicolette

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Valentine's Day is only 4 more sleeps away from my end of the world, and while I appreciate the commercialism, I still love it when I have someone to share it with.

It's funny, when Anthony and I first started dating he would buy me the most amazing bunches of flowers - there was one bunch that I had to place on the floor as they we so huge and amazing but I can't find the picture of that one but inserted is the photo of the ones he gave me to which the keys to his house were tied with a note saying something along the lines of "my door is always open to you". Gosh, there goes a chunk of his tough image...;)

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Anyway, as it is coming up to 4 years of being together I guess the Romance has worn off a little and Anthony said this morning "I guess you want flowers". Funny thing is now, as much as I love getting flowers, it is a lot of money better spent elsewhere, as I am sure they increase the prices by 100% just for the day, so I said no. I do however keep telling him he could always just go pick me one out of the garden and give it to me.... just because ;)

So, my request is a candle lit home cooked dinner at the table (instead of in front of the TV) as Anthony has a couple of mean recipes which I just loovve. Apparently to get that he has to know what he is getting in return so it is fair value :rolleyes:. Anyway, gotta love him.

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Ooh... found some more of the photos..... I soooooooooo love romance.

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These ones were so tall they didn't fit in the photo or on the bench - the willow was so tall.

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Very impressive ones too as orchids and tulips are my favorite! .... ahhh the good old days :D
 
The first Valentines Day Rob & I spent together we had a Chinese take away eaten off his ironing board whilst sitting on the floor in his bedroom because his army flatmate was hogging the front room! Not sure what we'll be doing this year, but it will probably involve prawn crackers!

Oops - that wasn't supposed to sound rude
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This is where I get onto my soapbox.

In our family we do not buy into Valentines, mothers Day, Fathers Day, Third cousin twice removed Day or whatever else they come up with. OK, when H and I first met we did the first couple of years until we realised how commercial it all was.

Our thoughts now are why have a special day to say I love you when it should be said in words or actions everyday. Having special days IMHO obligates people to out do one another, families to compete in the best Mothers Day gift. Also restaurant service is never as good on those days, too many people proving their love.

A couple of weeks ago, there was a knock at the door. It was our local florist, H had sent me flowers, no reason other than he walked past the shop, had thought I'd had a rough time recently and decided to buy them. Another example, I received an odd looking envelope through the post, when I opened it a large packet of Chocolate Buttons fell out, there was a note from my daughter, with a silly quote written on it and telling me she loves me.

Actions like these mean so much more because they are unprompted. In fact, H is away on Valentines Day, as he is for our anniversary in April (31 years) and I'm OK with that.

Basically we don't need commercial days to know we are a loving family.

Whatever you do, enjoy it, be kind to one another and remember it is the little things that matter, not just the grand gesture.

I'll put my soap box away now
 
OHHHHH ((((KP)))) you just put sparkle in my activist's altercapitalist heart ... I'm so glad to read what you just wrote. If you really love or care for someone, you don't need a commercialized date to let the other know ... or being trapped with the Christmas "man am I ever soooo nice to give everyone a gift" especially if there are people you're not on good terms ... like for some with an incestous parent. I love my Valentin Frog avatar because it is meant to make people laugh .. and on this forum, it sometimes isn't fun or great ... and the Valentin Frog reminds me to be in love with myself ... it has a particular effect especially when I haven't finished my first cup of coffee in the morning ... Some days, I don't feel like "frenching" myself ha ha ha
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KP, I've always been that way too, it's kind of how I do it and I guess the rest of us do it too. We also do the obligatory stuff but it's not required. Some years it's calls to people, some years it's all out wickedly great.

My Hunny has surprised me with doing some really great stuff. I certainly don't put much stock in the day since our Anniversary is just a few days before. It's funny but I set the wedding date like that, I wasn't even thinking when I did it but when I realized I was glad I hadn't set it for Valentine's...I guess because I wanted it to just be our day alone
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I'm going to the tdoc that day and my Hunny is going to probably work late so I won't see him that night. I'll be happy just to catch a glimpse of him that morning and give him a big ol' bear hug!!!
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BTW, KNP, none of those flowers I posted from Anthony were for Valentine's Day and I admit it is commercial. However given an excuse for some romance I'm in - hence why a home cooked dinner with my husband is all I want.

Anthony does his own romantic things like fart when we get into bed.... it's just so loving and costs nothing.
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