Why Do I Not Show An Interest In Others?

[anonymous]

This was pointed out to me recently. I don't ask people about themselves, I don't show much interest in others in reality. I know it's true but why do I do it? And, being in my mid thirties, is it possible to change it? Feeling really down about this because I have always been this way and didn't really think about it until it was pointed out to me. I feel like such a failure.

 

[Keming]

Never a failure. We don't function like the normies. They have baggage - we have baggage cars. Hard to look up when we're pulling so damned hard.

 

[anonymous]

Thank you :)

 

[Wyska]

I have this issue too and I hate myself for it. You're not alone. <3

 

[pixel]

This is tricky.
Since PTSD, listening to people's stories and trying to show interest? is PAINFUL.
So Plan A is: Ask no questions. Let's chat about infrastructure upgrades or cloud formations...

But... the moment any questions are pointed my way, I can't handle it Plan B activates: Direct the conversation back onto them. Ask THEM questions, people love it.
but I'm only offering half of one ear, coz thats the equivalent of the tiny portion of my brain that is available for standard conversations and it gets used up pretty quickly. Needs about 2 months before its back online.