Relationship Why Is It Just Me?

[Nomoneywoman]

My girlfriend and I were talking last night, and she mentioned something which I think sums up the re...

As a sufferer this makes so much sense to me. I couldn't put into words before. I totally get what your saying & agree, thank you.

 

[Bradford]

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hank

thank you for your reply. Him and I have only been dating for 5 months now , and I have not...

I am in a relationship with a beautiful woman that has severe PTSD. I love her beyond life, but it is a roller-coaster ride. I am 63 and she is 60. I have known her for almost 2 years now and our relationship has seemed to me to be on again / off again for a long time. I finally realized it is not. One intimate night ( I do not mean sexually intimate), we were talking. She told me how much she loved me, how much she missed me when she withdrew and how she had no control over it. She said and has said many times before, "You should find someone else". I can not. We have so much fun together. We enjoy each other beyond words, no matter what we do. But then the PTSD rears its head and it all turns upside down. With her the primary thing I see is withdrawal. I want to just put my arms around her and hold her tight, but that is the exact opposite of what she wants. I have been going trough this for some time now, it just about 6 months ago she confided in me that she has PTSD. I am doing more to research and understand this terrible, terrible disease.


I certainly do not have a magic bullet for how to help her and in doing so help me. I just keep supporting her, telling her I love her. Telling her that I will always be here for her no matter what. I every day tell her she is beautiful. I always make a point when we stay together when we wake, I try to make sure the first words she hears is, "You are beautiful". There are days I ache and yes, sometimes cry. Like right now, last week was absolutely fabulous, now her symptoms are kicking back in and she is withdrawing. I am having tears just thinking about it, thinking about her, can't wait for her to return. Love keeps it bound together, but that does not make it easy.