Without therapy - Any suggestions for making it through an extended period with no face-to-face support?

[osiris]

I'd say, if T is willing to do it, give video-chat a try.

Something that helps me is, I cover the little window on my computer where I can see myself with a post-it note.

The post it note advice is awesome @joeylittle
Jeez why have I never thought of that?

@whiteraven sorry it looks like such a long period, but as joey says could you try the video chat?
I haven’t seen/spoken to my T since Feb and I’ll admit it’s been really hard, but this place has helped.
Thinking of you.

 

[whiteraven]

I'd say, if T is willing to do it, give video-chat a try. I also hate it - but there are times its the only option for me, and it's slightly more effective than phone.

Something that helps me is, I cover the little window on my computer where I can see myself with a post-it note.

It WILL be weird. But then, it won't. Give T feedback on whether you can see them well enough, hear them well enough, etc. Also, when I need to go to online therapy for a chunk of time, I find it helpful to agree w/T to focus more on day-to-day/present-life challenges, and less on past-based PTSD processing stuff. So I'm not left sobbing with a computer, which I don't recover well from.

I'm considering it. Gonna try to do a practice run on another platform. I really need to talk to him. And it's weird. One of the reasons I don't want to do it (or am freaked out about it) is that I know I look awful on video of any kind. I know it doesn't matter to him, but...it does to me.

Day-to-day stuff sounds good. Thanks for the tip!

 

[joeylittle]

I know I look awful on video of any kind. I know it doesn't matter to him, but...it does to me.

I don't think it's weird. I can't look at myself, period. I've just found that once I cover up the little thumbnail of me, I can start to cope.

hearing you - I know it's hard.

 

[whiteraven]

I can't look at myself, period. I've just found that once I cover up the little thumbnail of me, I can start to cope.

Oh, ok. I'm thinking for me it might be a control thing. It might be good to try and let go of that. I'll give it a try...

 

[ChildofGod]

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