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My sufferer and I are no longer together and will be separated by distance for the next few months. This isn't the first time we've been physically apart; however, we were in a committed relationship then, and it was never any problem. We both decided to use this time to work on ourselves in the hopes of reconciling after he gets back. He would like an official label more than anything, but I'd like to see some progress made first before feeling comfortable enough getting back together.
We talked about abstaining from sex with others during this time, as it may not be the most beneficial thing for a re-emerging relationship. It's zero problem for me, as I don't have sex unless in a committed relationship and also can't even think of someone else that way when I'm in love. He said he could also manage but it would be hard, especially since we're not in a committed relationship, and that the main motivator for him was that the thought of me with other men would be devastating.
That hurt to hear as I would think that as in love with me as he claims to be (and as I believe him to be), I feel like it's a bit loose to be entertaining the idea of casual sex when the girl you say you love and want to commit your life to is back on the radar. So this has led me to conclude one of two things: He's either implying he wants sexual freedom, or he's trying to play his cards right to get me to commit right now. I'm really confused and upset and don't know how to handle this situation.
We talked about abstaining from sex with others during this time, as it may not be the most beneficial thing for a re-emerging relationship. It's zero problem for me, as I don't have sex unless in a committed relationship and also can't even think of someone else that way when I'm in love. He said he could also manage but it would be hard, especially since we're not in a committed relationship, and that the main motivator for him was that the thought of me with other men would be devastating.
That hurt to hear as I would think that as in love with me as he claims to be (and as I believe him to be), I feel like it's a bit loose to be entertaining the idea of casual sex when the girl you say you love and want to commit your life to is back on the radar. So this has led me to conclude one of two things: He's either implying he wants sexual freedom, or he's trying to play his cards right to get me to commit right now. I'm really confused and upset and don't know how to handle this situation.