Inside Out, The Movie; Wow, What Did You Think?

[Panda Bear]

Feeling sad is a pain in my ass @Junebug

It's like my biggest fear, the biggest hiccup to being vulnerable....ugh, sadness! Once T explained to me what was going on, it really bugged me. I felt bad that she was sad and could totally relate to no taking the time to process that a big changed had happened and that it was a big deal. My initial issue is the need to 'suck it up'

I hate that people in my life taught me that, to suck things up. Then I was sad that I didn't have people to always help me see and feel my way through life's changes.

I ended up pissed for her and sad too!

That and the poor kid could only find pizza with broccoli.....

 

[lostforgottensoul]

But you know what I was told about 10 years ago for anger? When something happens- big or small- say how you feel out loud. Wow. Next thing you know- nothing happens, no anger.

Ive erased and retyped my reply 4 times. Thats ridiculous.

Its hard but that is the way I got to the other emotions before. Now Im in limbo waiting and it has now recoated for protection so will need to 'shed' it again.

Its also aimed at me so i need to work on re-aiming it again.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

hello im jessie and im 8

8? You have to be 13 to be on the site.

 

[joeylittle]

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[Naoru]

My T asked me to watch it, but in hate watching TV/Movies. Finally, I agreed and after 2 attempts to...

Same situation here! As with any movie, I sat there emotionless and have wondered what all of the fuss has been about ever since. I mean, I can intellectually know when something is supposed to be sad or emotional in a movie/song/whatever, but I never feel anything or I can't relate. My husband also called me emotionless after Inside Out, and I'm often a "robot" or "cold-hearted." Hmmm now I'm wondering if this movie is something I should bring up to my therapist lol Thanks for all of the insight, guys :eek:;)

 

[lostforgottensoul]

My husband also called me emotionless after Inside Out, and I'm often a "robot" or "cold-hearted." Hmmm now I'm wondering if this movie is something I should bring up to my therapist lol Thanks for all of the insight, guys :eek:

I wouldnt be worried. I didnt cry or anything and im anything but emotionless.

Was an ok movie. I got the gist but dont get why theres so much fuss. Ok, we have "fundlemental-like" emotions that work together.

I dont know. I didnt see any big insights but maybe im missing them?

 

[Tinyflame]

Well, I just wondered why so many members' T's said to watch it or for T 'homework'.

Not sure if I can explain this, but for some of us emotions weren't something to be accessed, definitely not appreciated, or perhaps even considered. (Beyond 'suck it up', necessary for basic survival.) Actually, just for myself, how I felt was hardly much considered, not important. But, I think it's hard to grieve, love or do a lot of things when you feel about 'yourself' nothing. Even as simple for example as saying you would not go to T, if you did not have emotional connection to yourself, you wouldn't (or couldn't) choose it. Because emotions are the initial motivator for all human behviours. And quite frankly, what you feel doesn't matter. It's a bit under the baseline of being a 'person'.

Strange, but when I woke up this morning I remembered my dad saying I reminded him so much of his dad, who (he said) didn't express himself. I don't know much about him because he died early, my dad also died quite early- I don't know if my dad had ptsd but I do know he acted like it & had Criterion A trauma.

However, what was new this morning, was I don't know much about my grandfather, but I know that he served in the war as a minor, was mustard-gassed & developed cancer before he was even married at 22, used to get a yellow band around his head during stressful times, would meltdown at holidays, & had cancer for 20 years but worked very hard & on the road even with it, & was (though not very communicative) by the sound of it very soft hearted.

And, of course, that's only one variable of so many.

So what is learned, what is genetic, what is our own history or trauma-based? What is trans-generational, etc? These are questions Idk the answers to.

However, I am old enough to know that, even if Idk what the problem(s) as per my emotions are, their absence or blocking or minimization or whatever, it affects my thoughts & choices, perspective, probably SI etc.. My ability to live, make sense of things, (in)ability to successfully accomplish some things including types of therapy. More understanding (for me) is really required. Things maybe other people take for granted as obvious.

Yikes. A novel. :( ^^^ Sorry!

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Yikes. A novel. :( ^^^ Sorry!

As everyone says to me, its your thread so its all good. :hug:

Well, I just wondered why so many members' T's said to watch it or for T 'homework'.

I can see that. Some can have insights on 'oh, those are some of the emotions im suppose to feel' and that they work together. I didnt really realize that they work together (joy & sadness namley) and so I suppose thats my insight but it just doesnt give me huge insights that would lead to a step. But all the small ones count towards a step so it was a bit helpful for me.

I think what was also missing, though, on top of vulnerblity is pain. Maybe pain is a mixture but there are some elements of pain that are fundlemental and not a mixture of anything.

And i already knew I have super intense rage, sadness, fear, and pain. Joy is rather lost and stayed lost. A lot of the time Im numb, with the board black. Just nothing.

So its a good thread and many may get bigger insights from it like yourself and im glad it was of such good help to you! Or at least to get you thinking! :hug:

 

[Eleanor]

I haven't read all the way through this thread but thought I'd just chime in ... I LOVED this movie. I use it teaching moral psychology. I think the basic model is right (and I do think there are "core memories") But the "islands" are a device that is needed because they didn't get the basic emotions quite right (they use Ekman's set, not Panksepp's) But they kind of had to for the plot... Anyhow if you swap out Joy, Sadness, Anger, Fear, and Envy for FEAR, RAGE, LUST, SEEKING, CARE, PANIC/ATTACHMENT, and PLAY and to a lesser degree STARTLE and DISGUST (which is mostly what Envy is... really interesting) the thing really falls into place... someone... said earlier "That is an emotion!" is a response, and I think these 8 are ... the actually basic ones.

I loved the control board too, and how it grows at the end with puberty.. Emotions get more complex, and more integrated with each other.

I particularly like the clarity with which the point is made that an integrated personality/consciousness is an ACHIEVEMENT of development...

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes @lostforgottensoul thnk you for your experiences/ input. I do wonder if emotions can stack and create a perfect storm?

Interesting thought about pain...

Could pain include loss (grief), fear, humiliation, anxiety, degredation, etc?

 

[scout86]

I didnt see any big insights but maybe im missing them?

Here's a thought for you. Maybe you're not missing something at all. Maybe you're actually not the most messed up person in the room when it comes to this. :clown: Maybe you are actually more aware of your emotions and how they work that some of the rest of us.

For myself, I was honestly fascinated. It never had occurred to me that "emotions" served a purpose, beyond causing problems. I had never occurred to me that emotions didn't just randomly show up. The whole deal with "you express sadness and people try to make you feel better"....... I'm not buying that one just yet, but I guess it's a nice thought. (It's a lot easier to associate "sadness" with "I'LL give you something to cry about young lady!!!" :inpain:

It IS kind of interesting to learn how many people have gotten this for an assignment. Apparently a lot of people have issues in this area.

 

[Tinyflame]

Wow @Eleanor amazing. I need to come back & break that down! :tup: :hug: