Mechanics Of A Taker!

[Deleted member 34535]

Many of us who have PTSD have been the victim of one or many takers. I have a lot of experience with these creatures myself and I thought I would share some things about takers that you may or may not have thought about or recognized.....1) A major characteristic of a taker and this is key, they attempt above all to get you emotional. Where emotion is present, there will be no logic. Once they get you emotional, you belong to them. They will use and abuse you over and over until you wake up and smell the roses. ...2) They will use something that they know you hold near and dear and toy with you. For instance, if they know you like to see them, they will stay away and not contact you. Then they will come to see you if you have something for them.....I.E. Money, a possession.....anything. They will not come to see you unless they know you are going to give up something.....3)Takers are........yes, the E word.....EVIL. They only do for themselves. They give nothing. They are nothing but mere parasites....4) Many will set themselves up as the victim of someone. If they can get you to believe that someone that you know and love or like is hurting them, they will do so. In doing so, they can force you to turn against someone and thus limit your social circle of influence, thereby increasing their power over you..... 5) At the moment you figure out their game and call them on it, you are no longer of use to them. They will discard of you like a soiled wad of toilet paper. I have more characteristics of these creatures, but I have to wash the freaking dishes and I am having a brain fart. When I think of more, I will post them. Good night folks.

 

[Deleted member 34535]

Dishes are done and my brain fart has dissipated a little. I thought of a major point that is key in my opinion. In many instances, the taker could very well be a DNA match of yours. Not family, but a DNA match. They have the built in emotional attachment that they can exploit. They know your denial factor in believing that Little Bumpkins would do me wrong is extremely high. It is gut-wrenching to have to call out one of these DNA matches, but it must be done. Why? Simple. It is either you or them. They will use you and drain you dry and wonder why you are lying on the floor. Trust me, I know these creatures. My hope is that maybe someone hadn't thought of this and maybe this will trigger some thought and investigation on someone's part to rid themselves of this human debris. Blessings!

 

[Pencil]

Malignant narcissists?

 

[GrayOwl]

Excellent thread !!! OMG !!!
Takers. You describe AntiSocial Personality Disorder (ASPD).
Some of their common traits....
* A pervasive pattern of disregard for and violation of the rights of others.
*Failure to conform to social "norms" of behavior; often criminal behavior.
*Deceitfulness, lying, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure.
*Impulsivity or failure to plan ahead and consider the consequences of their actions -(YOU!-are always to blame!)
*Irritability and aggressiveness(violence or threat of)
*Reckless disregard for the safety of themselves or others.
*Total lack of remorse; indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt or mistreated others.

They only become anxious or remorseful about their actions if they are about to be caught. It is their nature to hurt and exploit others.

It is not like we imagine these things or these people. Volumes have been written and descriptive clinical diagnosis are available. They exist in our homes, our workplaces, and our society.

Some of us on this site are here because in some way, WE, or someone we care about, have invited these monsters into our lives. Others of us are here because these "jerks" have descended upon us and visited "trauma" upon us or a loved one.

So please don't think that these people "magically" heal themselves, apologize, make retribution, or ever live happily ever after. They are usually incurable and move like leeches from one target to the next.

So please, avoid them like the plague. Hire a tattoo artist and have a skull and crossbones tattooed across their face while they sleep - a warning to the world to KEEP AWAY - and then escape under the cover of darkness.

Victim of one myself. Ya think?

Practical solutions? Ideas? Comments?? Anyone??

 

[Pencil]

escape under the cover of darkness

Best advice ever. There is no other way to get away from them.

 

[Deleted member 34535]

Excellent thread !!! OMG !!!
Takers. You describe AntiSocial Personality Disorder (ASPD).
Some of t...

You are awesome Grayowl. I know these creatures inside and out. I know how they think, where they live (hint....it starts with H.)..I can feel them coming from a mile away. For me, they are just human debris. Blessings!!

 

[GrayOwl]

You are awesome Grayowl. I know these creatures inside and out. I know how they think, where they li...

You have a great skill if you can spot them. I seem to attract them, but the radar is becoming better tuned, thanks to experience. I wish Amazon sold a "Taker Detector" with a full set of instructions for use....or maybe a "how to" video.... but I guess that what life is all about.....lol. Good perceptions on your part. I hope they serve you well.
I am working on legislation in my state (Wisconsin) to address some of the damage these people do. As I research and work on this project I am in stark amazement that with the wealth of information and diagnosis we have available on these vicious sociopaths nothing is being done on any level to inform or protect society from their carnage. In fact it seems to be getting worse. I actually have legislators on board and an agenda to bring a bill to the floor hopefully sometime next year to address workplace bullying and trauma. It's getting a lot of traction here in this state. And it's very therapeutic for me seeing progress, knowing that it will help expose my abuser and those of other victims, even if nothing is passed.
I may get back to you on this.
Thank you for posting. Best wishes on your healing journey.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Been there and done that a few times. Totally got suckered in and learned painfully and costly lessons. Learning so much here.

 

[Friday]

I love cocky bastards.
I hate arrogant pricks.

Knowing who we like & dislike? What traits attract or repel us? One of those very key things in surrounding ourselves with people we actually want in our lives.

 

[Pencil]

Many will set themselves up as the victim of someone. If they can get you to believe that someone that you know and love or like is hurting them, they will do so. In doing so, they can force you to turn against someone and thus limit your social circle of influence, thereby increasing their power over you.

And, they will turn others against you.

The biggest mistake I made was not realizing the time and effort and attention paid to me. It never occurred to me that I could be the focus of someone else's life. I honestly thought that every individual in this world is self-focused and concerned with their own lives and futures and happiness. Wrong.

 

[Nevermore]

Hmm don't know about "if you know they lkke to see you, they will stay away and not contact you! I am never wanting to see a "taker". I'm
Probably the one who stays away and doesn't contact, in the hope they will forget about me.
Takers come in many different forms - one thing they have in common is they think everyone else is playing a bit part in the play of their lives. There's no recognition that others have their own hassles and their own story.
They are an exhausting lot of people. You cannot have a true two way friendship with a taker.
Or emotional vampire as they are commonly called!

 

[Seasounds]

I understand the process; I've experienced it. I liked waking up to the dysfunction that I played a part in, and the empowerment of choices and boundaries that ensued.

I can never claim I know the intentions of others; I can know how I feel.

Letting out steam was one step in the journey of healing. Eventually, I learned we both had problems that led to the ill-fared affair. Empathy, accountability, and new choices, towards a healthier future.