Sexual Assault Just Found Out The Man Who Raped Me This Past September Gave Me An Sti

[WendyVictoria]

I'm so mad. I got tests done because I'm getting an iud put in soon and found out I have chlymydia. My doctor called me at home (I moved back in with my parents) and my mom picked up. I was on the toilet and she barged in without knocking and forcefully handed me the phone. I wouldn't be surprised if the doctor told my mom what I have as she has violated patient confidentiality when I was younger (told my mom she diagnosed me with major depression). I hate my life. This is about the fifth time I've been sexually assaulted. The cops haven't cared in the past but they cared even less this time because I'm a sex worker. I only called them that night because he robbed me as well. They didn't even care about that. I had to get my own shit back by talking to him myself and telling him how easily the cops could find him. I had pictures of him, his cell number, and I knew were he lived. The doctor I saw the next day tried to force me into doing a rape kit. I only saw him because I had fecal material in my vagina. He raped me anally, orally, and vaginally. I was afraid I was going to get an infection and my rectum was bleeding. I want revenge. I want it bad.

 

[Friday]

I want revenge. I want it bad.

I know that feeling. Know it well.

Same, have also picked up a few STIs from rape ...although fortunately curable & caught early-ish... The added insult to injury has just made me want to go tear their throats out. I generally reserved that option for if the 2nd round of HIV testing came back pos in 6mo. But in the meantime, reporting the asshole to various departments of health? Using the minimum number of words necessary? "The asshole who raped me gave me chlamydia." And then handing them the stack of his info and walking out... Can make his life...interesting. Especially if the prick is married. But even if not, they track the strains, and it means everyone he gave it to gets contacted. Or everyone they can find. It's a lose/lose for him, and gets people who don't think to get tested cleared. A very, very, very looooooooong shot (because it means departments working together, which virtually never happens, but the right pissed off social worker has done it a few times when the same strain keeps popping & they know at least one of the victims was raped) ; it can also get him convicted of rape, if he has any victims who didn't know who he was, who did get tested, and has better cops than you had.

 

[EmmaOwl]

And then handing them the stack of his info and walking out... Can make his life...interesting. Especially if the prick is married. But even if not, they track the strains, and it means everyone he gave it to gets contacted. Or everyone they can find. It's a lose/lose for him,

I don't know that I'd be strong enough. But if you're looking for some sort of revenge... Even if it's a long shot, it might provide some satisfaction, something to actively DO back to this horrible person. It's small punishment, compared to the vile crime... but may be helpful if you want to look at it as an act of retribution (without actually doing anything violent and/or illegal).

If possible, make some copies of "the stack of his info" and if you've got his address either mail it or leave it on the front stoop or something. Somewhere if he IS married or in a relationship, the person might happen upon it and (if they don't know already), let someone know what an absolute a****** of a person this is.

I'm so sorry for what you've suffered. I am also sorry that your private information was violated with your mother - adding insult to injury.

 

[Heather]

@WendyVictoria...so sorry for what you've been through.

Hugs

Heather

 

[WendyVictoria]

He isn't married and I don't know his address. What I'm hoping is that he never gets tested and suffers sepsis from it. I haven't slept with my bf since I was raped last (he's deployed in the navy). I'm waiting for his tests to come back to see if he gave it me or I gave it to him. Either way, my bf and I have to use condoms for a month after he's back. The antibiotics have been making me sick but I finished my last pill yesterday.

 

[Chem Lady]

I'm so sorry that you've been through that and I'm so sorry that the people who are supposed to care aren't doing anything. I understand your anger. I hope you can find a way through it. It's so hard to live that way.