Your Feeling Shows

[Rani G2]

Coming out of a place of "isolate yourself, toughen up, survive, dont show weakness" I have difficulty in being emotional.

Example: A person I know cried, I just watched, toched her arm and said nothing, just listend. She wanted to hug, I cant do that. So I just stood there.

It was probably not the vest way to respond, but I do have massive issues with being emotional

When others are vulnerable, can you handle that?

Sorry some misspellings there

 

[ladee]

You know me @PURUSHA , I have no problem with this.
Just work on yourself to gradually let the wall down.
Its not right or wrong..it's a self admitted limitation for you. You were there for her in the way you could be.
That IS good.

 

[Rani G2]

Just work on yourself to gradually let the wall down.

Ladee, the idealizing selfconcept is hard to dismantle. Tricky stuff but getting through.

I dont have to be cold, rational and sarcastic 24/7. Being human is pretty tricky at times.

Thanks ladee

 

[ladee]

But you are aware and that by itself starts to change things. Its up to you whether you want to beat yourself up every step to change.
I used to beat myself up.. In some distorted way it gave me the illusion that if I was doing the beating, then no one else could.
Key words..distorted and illusion.
You will walk your way into what is ok. For you. Awareness puts you half way there. So it's hard! What else is new about this journey!!
Of course it's hard. Just like building the wall in the first place.
Have some faith in yourself. If only enough to fill the bottom of a thimble. Its still a new beginning.
Sending you a cyber hug! Its called "exposure therapy". Ya gotta start somewhere.
And you know me and you know I mean no harm.
So a cyber hug on it's way !

 

[Deadman]

It took me a long time the regain any sort of empathy. I think it was when my father died that I realized people were entitled to feel sad even though earthquake or war hadn't flattened their village.

I guess what I'm saying is that you'll probably get some of your empathy back over time.

 

[blackandwhite2017]

Yeah I also have problems just allowing myself to be human and vulnerable. Because I can't even care for my own feelings when I feel vulnerable, I also have troubles caring for others when they feel vulnerable.