Therapy flunkie

[Deadman]

Arrggghhh! I want to shake you and yell "speak dammit! speak"!

You need to speak the truth to your T. You owe it to yourself. Don't let the fear stop you.

I know lots of people here like to blame their Ts for everything but sometimes the problem is us and not the Ts.

 

[desiderata310]

All I can say is that it has helped me and while it hasn't solved the problem, I have gotten BETTER about talking in therapy.
I think that the problem lies with shitty therapists, not you

 

[Deadman]

Arrrgghhhh I want to shake you too @Esterio ! Keep trying! Both of you.

The important part is to keep trying until you find something that works. Don't let the fear and the past failures stop you.

 

[desiderata310]

@Deadman did you mean to tag me?:sneaky:

Trust me, I TRY. I really do. The emails, etc were the crutch I needed to get me started. I'm slowly warming to speaking but it's difficult mainly because I struggle to stay present. Dissociation thy name is Desiderata!

 

[Deadman]

@desiderata310 Nope. You just posted between mine while I was shaking @Esterio :)

 

[desiderata310]

Poor @Esterio
And stop shaking the durn posters! You'll scare em away!

 

[Deadman]

But I'll shake you too if you like :)

 

[desiderata310]

No. Thanks. Really.
But seriously OP. I think you might have a reason to investigate and interview a new therapist.

 

[Deadman]

It doesn't really matter at this point OP. If what you are doing is not working you need to do something different. Change your T if that is what you think the problem is. Or open up if thats what you think the problem is.

 

[anonymous]

Arrggghhh! I want to shake you and yell "speak dammit! speak"!

You need to speak the truth to your T....

Deadman,
I agree with you 100%. Like I said, I dont believe it is the therapist's problem so much as it is mine. I can tolerate this one, which is more than I have done with many others. Sometimes I want to shake me and yell, "Speak! DAMNIT, speak" as well. If only it worked. I think my therapist might like to do the same. :shifty:

 

[Deadman]

You can do it you know. I didn't think I could either. I only did it when I was at the bottom. It was possibly the hardest thing I have ever done. It hurt to do it. It hurt after too. But slowly things got better. I don't pretend to understand why it worked. I just know it did.

 

[anonymous]

I know lots of people here like to blame their Ts for everything but sometimes the problem is us and not the Ts.

Agreed.

I think that the problem lies with shitty therapists, not you

Maybe he is not shitty? Maybe its not working for me?

I'm slowly warming to speaking but it's difficult mainly because I struggle to stay present. Dissociation thy name is Desiderata!

I have the same problem I think, although I have never had it referred to by that term.

But seriously OP. I think you might have a reason to investigate and interview a new therapist.

Maybe. It only took me six months to decide to pick up the phone and call this one. Ugh. My options are very limited because of my location.

I am so confused. I am.not one to blame my issues on somebody else. I tend to think everything is my fault. I dont know whether to think that I tolerate this T because he isnt doing anything or that I tolerate him because he is good. I do prefer a male therapist, and there are very few in my area. I think two take my insurance, and I have ruled the second one out already. I may need to consider a female, which has not worked well for me in the past.

Thank you all for your input. @Esterio, I feel for you.