That talk about the snowflake generation is offensive

[Olici]

It is not really important, but I'd like to talk about this anyway.
I think all this talk about the "snow flake" generation can be a bit offensive. Odd to say that because being constantly offended and having our feelings hurt is one of the things we are being blamed of.
Anyway I think being a good spouse is a pretty tough job and not for the faint of heart. It is pretty rewarding too. It is not easy but nothing worth your while ever is.

 

[Bovugo]

First I've heard of it.

 

[Olici]

You don't read a lot of political magazines and blogs then, do you?
Snowflake generation is a term directed a young and sometimes also middle aged adults, who are thought to be less resilient then all previous generations before them and blamed of being the downfall of civilization.

 

[Bepi]

Pile of nonsense, what about those of us raised by abusive parents? Still snowflakes are we?

 

[Olici]

Good example!

 

[Fanebe]

Ah. "Kids these days." :rolleyes: Yes. Always spelling the doom and destruction of life as we know it. Shrug. The ancient Egyptians said it. The Romans said it. Most likely every generation from the dawn of time has said it. Occasionally they may happen to be right that their world is coming to an end; although I suspect that the falling of Empires & destruction of various civilizations had a little less to do with intergenerational antipathy, and a little more to do with everything else. Snort. From conquering armies to plague, famine to drought. Still, having someone to blame seems to comfort a lot of people. Complaints seem to be the real opiate of the masses. Gods just seem to be a convenient thing to complain at. But failing a nearby deity to rail at, or witch to burn, I suppose other people's children -of any age- make a good enough target.

 

[Ebite]

I am an genXer but I fall closer to the millennial end than the boomer end. I know that sometimes my generation is lumped into this group and other times we are the ones pointing fingers as well. Personally, from my point of view, the "snowflake" generation has had a more difficult time since the silent generation. The baby boomers were born in a time when the middle class was thriving. Higher education was more affordable. Jobs that paid enough for one person to support an entire family were practically a guarantee.

They don't get how difficult things are for the younger generation, because admitting this would be to realize everything they had been taught about "an honest days pay for an honest days work" and the foundation of their principles was a big lie. They hear the younger generation crying out about the injustices you guys face and they look around and think, "well it wasn't a problem for us so the problem must lie them, bet it was those participation trophy's every child got." News flash, those participation trophies were more for the parents than the kids.

The hard truth is it is easier to blame the victim than it is to admit when you f*cked up, and that is what the older generations are doing when they call you guys snowflakes.

 

[Lisuh]

I am just wondering why you would post this in an anonymous forum? Hmmmm..... gives you much to think about as it pertains to the topic...

 

[Olici]

Why I post this anonymous? Because there is a relative of mine, a vet, and growing up I really looked up to him but lately he keeps telling me how his generation of vets and spouses has been so much cooler than the new generation.
So he knows my guy has problems with crowds and he goes like "do you think there have been no crowds in the past?", but according to him his generation was so much tougher, nobody ever had problems with crowds or anything else for that matter and if they did their spouse just accepted it and was blissfully happy anyway.

I think being a good spouse is tough nowadays and told him exactly what I wrote above, very similar words... that it is not for the faint of heart but rewarding... and because I did I felt a little paranoid and posted it anonymous. I do not even know if he has internet.

 

[Enapa]

It sounds like your problem is more with your relative than with the snowflake label. Or, to say it a different way, it sounds like that relative is someone who is being unsupportive. This relative may claim that his generation never had problems with crowds, but that's patently untrue. (in fact, agoraphobia was first diagnosed in 1871). Making claims like that, is similar to people telling someone with clinical depression they just need to exercise more and have a positive outlook.

As another poster mentioned, every generation finds ways to criticize and disapprove of the next generation.I suppose it is offensive, but when done as a general, impersonal statement on a population it's really just a sort of noise that shouldn't be taken seriously. That's why there's the joke about walking to school up hill, both ways, in the snow. Every generation seems to try to convince the younger group they had it harder. I think it's really a fear of change, being expressed.

I am just wondering why you would post this in an anonymous forum? .

Why would that matter? For all you know, this person might only post to the anonymous forum. Perhaps I'm missing something? I just really hope we can be supportive of people who feel they need to use the anonymous forum.

 

[Ufig]

There has always been PTSD, they just called it different things, like battle fatigue or shell shock. Your older relative is talking out of his ass.

 

[Zejo]

There will always be labels others use to try to better define the uncomfortable stories of others, in their own minds, regardless of the accuracy of said labels.

However, we live in a society that makes labels a necessity to supposedly be able to better meet our health needs and such. How's that working for us?

Unfortunately, many will come across as simply being judgemental assholes in the process because most of the labels being used have many negative aspects attached, not to mention how often they get blindly tossed around with no true understanding of the actual terms being tossed.

Often times, it seems it is done quite purposely just to get a rise...other times it just feels like it was done purposely.

I've not yet encountered many labels that actually foster a deep sense of warmth and unity, no matter how well it gets dressed up and delivered, but rather serve to create even larger divides.