Relationship You want to continue supporting, but they seem so lost in isolation.

[LuckiLee]

Still. Not your place.

Just recently I wanted to confront my guys sister. I asked the people here if I should. Everyone said absolutely not. It's up to hum what people know. Even family.

 

[Deleted member 44240]

This @B.J. is a most profound betrayal of trust and on the relationship itself! S...

As mentioned to @leehalf, I’ve not overstepped any boundaries, just danced around certain questions. Who knows what she may have done at this time with him, however I’m innocent. I would never purposefully throw him under the bus like that. I was used as a reference for him by her about work-related issues.

 

[LuckiLee]

Still. NOT your place. You should have told them to ask him themselves.

 

[Deleted member 44240]

Still. Not your place.

Just recently I wanted to confront my guys sister. I asked the people here if...

That it should be. Again, I’ve known about his illness for over a year and know one knew of it through me. What you mentioned about your bf’s sister, you’re absolutely right, you would be dead wrong and so would I.

 

[LuckiLee]

But what you did you feel was ok? He doesn't and neither do I. "kid gloves" remember? Geez!

 

[StarChild]

I learned through another friend that he actually was diagnosed schizophrenic and bipolar 1

@B.J, there seems to be a slight problem with accepting reality. And what about this statement of yours? It's from one of your early posts. Where does it say PTSD?

 

[Deleted member 44240]

I think we should agree to disagree. Unless anyone else was there to experience what happened, all they have is my supporter version.

 

[Friday]

I told her to be mindful because he does suffer with ptsd

I’ve not overstepped any boundaries

I don’t think you understand.

Sharing someone else’s confidential medical information IS stepping over boundaries.

To the degree that there are laws against doing so.

It doesn’t matter how much someone else wants to know, or how much of a right you *think* they should have to that information, nor how well/ how long you’ve known them. It’s not your information to share. If you really question whether or not a boss has the right to know about their employees health? Ask yourself if they could call his doctor and ask for his diagnosis. Or, heck, try it yourself & call anyone else's doctor and ask for their medical records. They won’t give them to you without signed written consent of the patient, themselves. Because no one -except the patient- has the right to that information, or to distribute that information. Or you could look up the laws that specifically forbid employers from asking the employee themselves about health matters. PTSD is a specific diagnosis. It’s not generic to tell someone they have PTSD.

You were entrusted with private information, and you broke that trust.

 

[Deleted member 44240]

Ok, if I’m wrong, then I’m wrong. I’ve apologized profusely to him for haven over-stepped boundaries. He was acting somewhat erratic and she inquired. Since ptsd is a mental illness, I suppose it is quite confidential; like sharing someone’s sexual health status. If I could do it all over again, I would have said anything. I didn’t think she would use that against him or me since it was expressed in confidence for her to be aware so she could be mindful when dealing with him.

 

[EveHarrington]

Wow.

You quite possibly put his job in jeopardy.

Yeah, we all know there are laws against discrimination, but we all know there are ways around those laws.

I really cannot believe you did this to someone you supposedly care about.

This is kinda like the antithesis of love.

 

[Deleted member 44240]

First of all, no need to be concerned about his employment; he hasn’t lost his job nor will he. I know exactly what I did and the outcome of it. The last thing I need is to keep being reprimanded for something that happened a long time ago. He is fine; he even forgiven me but just doesn’t want to have conversation right now. Thank you.

 

[EveHarrington]

But you can’t predict the future. You have no way of knowing that this won’t affect his employment. What if he tries to get a new job and needs a reference? Yeah, the PTSD info might slip. I see a lot of you not wanting to accept any responsibility for your part in any of this as you just brush it all off with a quick “ok I did wrong now leave me alone” kind of response.

I really think you don’t “get it” or the seriousness of your actions.