Relationship Losing it.

[Deanna]

That was someone else who said that. I’ve known him for 27 years. Dating or not...I’ll never aband...

That's awesome!

 

[dulcia]

@Deanna's Gap, that was me with the asshole ex and the you never served comment! Sorry to confuse. I don't think Cleo's guy sounds nearly as vile as mine was. It sounds like his go to response is flight, while my ex's was fight.

 

[Deanna]

@Deanna's Gap, that was me with the asshole ex and the you never served comment! Sorr...

I think you're right ( flight or fight) thanks for verifying you didn't serve in armed services.. I knew it was in there somewhere. Wrong person. ( too funny) not everyone has to serve. I hope you are doing great Dulcia! You rock, girl!!!

 

[Cleo1521]

@Deanna's Gap, that was me with the asshole ex and the you never served comment! Sorr...

I’m not sure what’s worse the fight or the flight with zero reasoning.

 

[dulcia]

Equally sh*tty if there's no attempt at improvement, maybe? ;)

 

[Hojay]

Mine does both, depending on how the stars are aligned. Got the best of both worlds. Both are shit. When he fights, at least I can leave the room or get a word in. When he flights, there’s nothing, nada, zip you can do. You’re just left stewing in your own soup. Flight feels worse, now that I think about it.

 

[dulcia]

I always imagined flight was especially hard for anyone with a history of abandonment issues.

 

[Cleo1521]

Mine does both, depending on how the stars are aligned. Got the best of both worlds. Both are shit. When...

Agreed. And flight in my case can lasts months at a time.

I always imagined flight was especially hard for anyone with a history of abandonment issues.

I lost my best friend to suicide 10 years ago. This situation with him has made me realize I have a lot of issues leftover from that.

 

[Deanna]

I lost my brother to suicide in the roaring eighties. He was a sixteen years old an harbored a fight with drugs and abandonment from his very first girlfriend. His death resulted in flight. He was sixteen years old.

(Graphic) He blew his brains out.

That resulted in an eighth of my PTSD but didn't make me full PTSD. I know of he had to do it over again he wouldn't have although I lived in another state at the time. I can remember wondering if I could have changed it if I still lived at home and my answer was no.

 

[Cleo1521]

I lost my brother to suicide in the roaring eighties. He was a sixteen years old an harbored a fig...

I wondered a lot of what if’s, but I know nothing would’ve changed the outcome. It’s internal for me. I can’t control the way I still feel about it. It’s hard to explain I guess.

 

[Deanna]

I wondered a lot of what if’s, but I know nothing would’ve changed the outcome. It’s internal fo...

I know but at least you're opening up about it, which is good. I'd like to think I could erase all my memories if him but I can't either. He was so funny! He'd have you on the floor, busting out laughing. His smile was from ear to ear and he had dimples. I'm sorry about your friend. It is tough.

I'm working so I'm signing out for now.Have a good weekend folks! May talk with you cool dudesses later.

 

[Cleo1521]

The day is here and as predicted he’s nowhere to be found. Ugh. So sad.