Confused about my parents

[Questioning]

Hey, countryman! Another Finn here. ??
Seconding everyone: get help. Your mom is entitled to her opinions, but you don’t have to see them as rules regulating your behaviour. Easier said than done, I know... and one of the classic features of abusive families is exactly the fact that what people think and feel feels like the law.

Anyway, go get help. Really.
:hug: <- an awkward Finnish hug

Hello, fellow Finn! Yes, it makes sense, everything that you said. I will get some help, promise. :) Thanks for your reply, sending an awkward Finnish hug right back at ya!

Maybe your mom should be stripped of her license.

She’s definitely obliterated that “first of all do no harm” oath!

Do you understand that your mom cares more about her reputation than the well being of her own daughter? She came up with a zero in that whole “mama bear” thing, which is quite sad as someone who has no parental protection instincts really should think twice before having kids. I mean, protecting your kids is the number one job of a parent.

I hope one day that you find the strength to separate yourself from her. I wouldn’t be surprised if she was indeed disordered herself.

I don't believe she has broken any professional oaths, even though I have had personal difficulties with her. In fact, I believe she is quite good at her job, which is a bit ironic indeed. She does love me and has been a very protective mother otherwise. She herself has had a very difficult childhood, so I believe this has affected her behavior. I do not want to separate myself from her, I have been less in contact with her after my moving out though. I guess my goal is to figure out these events in my head, and come to terms with reality in order to move on from it and better understand the reason behind everything.

 

[Freemartin]

I will get some help, promise. :)

Good! And knowing we Finns take promises very seriously, I trust you on this one. Do you have a place in mind? Wanna try the public healthcare route or find a private doc?