When the triggers are almost too much: can anyone help?

[Tinyflame]

Have had a few days, where now I am aware that I feel as I do because of triggers, particularly embedded in circumstances I cannot avoid.
My problem is, I can identify them, do and try to do everything I know of congitively to deal with them, be mindful, grounded, breathe- all that, but I still can't barely bear them, even physically it's all I can stand, my body even is rebelling/ giving out, as well, even though my mind knows better and I keep hanging on.
Once I realized this was (is) the problem, I've managed- not missed work, not taken it out on anyone (fought), physically have fallen apart, but even made it to my day off.

Can anyone help? I've run out of ideas. Maybe nothing more can be done? I have other responsibilities to meet, and also I just don't know how I can bear it.

 

[revelry]

It sounds like your very overwhelmed, can breaking things down into "smaller bites" help??? You are, after all, only one human, and only capable of so much.

 

[Tinyflame]

Thank you revelry, to try to 'schedule' a way away from them?

 

[revelry]

Maybe, just be careful not to "go" too far. But it really sounds like you may need some time to decompress and get your thoughts in order.

Are you pushing yourself too hard, setting unrealistic expectations? Remeber, everyone is allowed to have a bad day, and even set-backs. It's how you choose to move forward that matters, and it seems like your on the right path, you havent missed work, and have the desire to manage your other responsibilities, maybe you just need breath a little deeper, and tackle the triggers one-at-a-time.

 

[Tinyflame]

Dear revelry, thank you, I hope so, I just wish I knew a way to stop them or slow them down.
You are right, I have been very fortunate since last weekend to have realized what was the cause, and by and large emotionally am more equipped to stay afloat, just not sure 'how', but maybe it is as simple as 'rest'?, have no time for that but maybe have no other option. It was a real eye-opener to me, after the last week, how hard stress/ meltdowns hit your body, because the week before was the hardest in a long time, and I didn't realize it was a lot of triggers.

Also it's hard to get a (literal) proper breath so I even wonder if that contributes to causing the triggers?

 

[Jestadud]

Also it's hard to get a (literal) proper breath so I even wonder if that contributes to causing the triggers?

As a fellow smoker we know that our poor lifestyle leaves us susceptible to triggers or moods.

It seems to me that you have hit a real low and knowing a little of your circumstances (fending for yourself, looking after your Aunt etc.) maybe you are feeling a little overworked and unappreciated at the moment, has anyone told you recently what a good job you are doing and how much you are valued.

You should know you are here on this forum but maybe you don't hear it enough out there in the real world.

I--:)--I Jesta

 

[anni]

I'd meant to stop in on your profile page yesterday and offer a hug because I saw your mood thing set to 'scared'. You always seem so even and grounded, or sound it, this was so out of the usual I'd meant to at least do that in lieu of intruding. ((((to you)))) dear Junebug!

I have this sort of thing myself at the moment, it's surreal as you say having things embedded where you have no choice but to go face them. I don't know if it's helpful for you personally but I've been getting through it by acknowledging it's all there, it's real, it's composed of xyz and in 8 hours I'll be home and the h*ll away from it again. That's sort of my reward, getting home-I'll do goofy things like refold my ridiculous towels or put something else in order just feeling it all around me again. Anything which isn't really pressing as a responsibility I'm also kind of giving myself a break with, although don't know if that's a good thing or not quite honestly.I know I've started smoking too much again like an idiot but I have to deal with one thing at a time if things aren't to go completely poof in the head. This isn't supposed to be about 'me', just was trying to tell you how I've been getting through this dreck, that's all.

We're here, and thinking of you. I hope people continue to have more helpful things to say for you as I see they have so far, and you find some peace.

((((( Junebug! )))))

Anni

 

[intothelight]

Junebug,

It is extremely difficult to try to not be triggered when you are in the midst of the triggers. Are you feeling trapped? Is there any place that you enjoy or that is peaceful where you can get a bit of a break? I try parks or when the weather is bad the library. It just gives me a chance to reevaluate and try to sort things out without feeling like life is a tsunami.

(((hugs)))

Wishing you peace.
Deb

 

[KP the nut]

(((Junebug)))

Nothing really to add, I just wanted to offer my support.

Then all the usual stuff, try and be kind to yourself. Set yourself some time each day (once a day at least) to be by yourself, to remove all stimuli from your environment (headphones?).

Linking arms and sending strength
KP

 

[Tinyflame]

Thank you everyone, will try those things.
No, not 'unappreciated'- very very fortunate = everyone here is so sweet.
xoxox for now-

 

[Tinyflame]

Thanks everyone, I guess I didn't see it coming nor notice what I do (smoke too much etc) in response. I always think understanding should be enough.
I don't think lack of air causes a trigger- unless maybe it's a trigger(?), but just changes how one generally ~feels.

Mostly the triggers (I thougt I could identify).
In some ways it's good to know when one can't avoid triggers you likely will be triggered, but have to find a way to decompress, be able to get away.
Hugs to all, xox

 

[Jestadud]

Maybe the old nugget about what is a stressor compared to a triggers is playing a part here? Personally I believe that if you hit enough stressors you can get triggered.

I also wonder if what the mind tricks the body into when full blown Ptsd ie. shallow breathing, adrenaline shakes etc.
the body can confuse the mind with when they occur naturally, leaving us feeling on the edge of going full blown.

From my experience I know when I was cold enough to shiver it was like a little conversation with myself going on,
like the mind is checking "Is this it are we going to go" "No we're just cold" " Well shall we go anyway then we won't notice the cold" "No but hang around just in case"

OMG have I just said that out loud! Please don't let them take me away.:alien:

Does shallow breathing cause anything like that?