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[Deleted member 93]

No, the big girl wins hands down on the temper tantrums. And yes, I get they are not little adults. Anthony has pointed this out when my teens get in some good fights with me. I also, watch her two brothers though. One younger, one older. I have 4 kids. boy, girl, boy, girl. The one with all the testoterone oozing in the house, hitting the home gym, trying to be in control seems to understand basic physics as does the 8 yo... Like gravity and don't do this. So it really grinds me. She goes a little over the top as she is having some personal issues of her own not related to this we are trying to work through. Well, kind of. Just depends on how you look at it. Just her dad is a jerk to sum it up.

She stayed with her aunt for a visit and was sent back home for smoking, drinking, and messing with boys. She is already pricing apartments... She is unique in this house with her attitude and lack of care or self control. Like when lighting outside. She takes off after I tell her no and tries to get little one to go play out side. The little one had enough snap to say no, momma says no playing out side when lighting. They know they can go play in the rain but a hard fast rule, you don't go out in the field when lighting is with it. We are working on it, as it is one of the many things I have addressed in therapy.

But I still must say another planet to drop them off on would be nice until they reach maturity!

 

[Jet]

Violence is unacceptable. Period. Does not matter why.

A year or so ago my Goddess son (who is not a teenager but has Aspbergers Syndrome and has issues understanding another person's feelings or pain) was having violance issues at school. He was kicked out on the second day for beating up the principal.

Over and over his mom tried to explain that it hurt other people. He just did not get it. Finally I told him that it simply did not matter why. My rule is NO VIOLENCE! PERIOD. NO EXCEPTIONS. That includes not only the obvious pysical violence but also verbal and such. IT IS NEVER OK TO HARM ANOTHER PERSON.

Kids are kids. Their minds are programmed to work that way. It is how they learn. If a person does not make mistakes then they do not learn.

May I suggest Kung Fu. A good Kung Fu Master will teach mental dicipline along with the physical aspects of the Martial Art. More so then some of the others, especially these days. They stress the Art in Martial Art. It is spiritual as well as physical.

 

[Jet]

I am sorry it is so rough. That is something I get.

Hate to say it and I hope I am wrong but it doesn't sound like she likes herself much. Jerky dad should be drop kicked (oh wait, I don't believe in violence).

May I add you all to my prayers?

 

[Deleted member 93]

No she doesn't. I know that. I can sum it up for you real quick too as I know you don't know the history being new. The teens' dad is a major contributer to PTSD. He was violent in our marriage, kidnapped me, raped me, and almost blew my head off after I left. He never wanted kids. After a dirt bike accident when younger I was told I could not have kids. So perfect match, until I got pregnant. That is when it changed because I would not abort.

He has basically abandoned them and shows up maybe once a year and turns everything inside out. Not to mention my mind.

She blames me for her dad not wanting to see her. I know that her dad not giving her love makes her feel unlovable or not worthy of it. I tell her it is the opposite and she is very worthy. BUT she is not to lash out at me and others in the home because she hurts or blame others. (pot calling kettle black) I am there to support her and comfort her, but she has issues with the wrong one. I am just easy to blame as I am the present parent and he is absent. With him absent it gives her nothing to go on except fantasies as to what her dad and a life with him could be like, and the child's imagination is limitless. Reality is though mom is "mean". She has chores, must keep her grades up or get grounded, go to bed... you know all the bad things parents who hate their kids do LOL.

Like I said I know where the issues are and we work on them. It is not being neglected. But we like to vent how we would love to bean them on their heads sometimes. I do not think you can have teens and not want to break a boot off in their ass at times. As much as they like to show it!

 

[Deleted member 93]

and yes...

 

[piglet]

Long day. Very tired. Off for a walk as it is getting dark and I won't be able to see the dog soon (or where I'm going!). No work til Monday - apart from the 130 assignments that got handed in today. Guess what I'm doing this weekend!

 

[YoungAndAngry]

2 doc appointments today... phew.. I'm so tired.
I still have to pack a work lunch for the boyfriend...
Maybe I should make Kraft Dinner for his breakfast.. hmmm

 

[anthony]

Maybe I should make Kraft Dinner for his breakfast.. hmmm

LMAO...

Well, today kerrie slept in, so I fed bub, showered him, cleaned the house, then kerrie got out of bed, so I had a shower, and here I am for some daily therapy. Learning just helps my brain function daily I think... new things for it to process, hence it has little time to get bored and come up with new things to throw at me PTSD wise.

 

[Farmer]

Something neat happened today. Our 12 year old cat who was missing for 12 days decided to show up, the little!@#$%^ scared the hell out if us, we thought for shure coyotes got him. So I guess the day turned pretty good.

 

[anthony]

Good stuff farmer... excellent news.

 

[Nam]

Very tired today. I got my fix at the cheap store! I have a problem with buying cheap stuff....I really can't explain it since I don't understand it myself. Do you guys down under have a dollar tree? (dollar store). Yep, bad habit. A ten dollar a week habit! Oh well, worse habits than that....:biggrin:

 

[Deleted member 93]

Been slapped backwards a ways in my therapy... Totally sucks. I am pissed, disappointed in myself, and while on one hand I knew it was going to take so long to get to a better place, but now the brakes have been thrown on so to speak. And now I am getting upset it is going to go even slower, but the therapist says I am needing it too. I am sure I will feel better later about it but at the moment it just feels like I am being sucked into a hole again. He was OK with starting exposure aspect, but now he changed his mind because having "surprise" triggers that may show up at the same time I don't plan isn't good for me to get tangled in yet. He wasn't tickled over me having the surprise trigger get me last week. So I have been told no more triggering for me out in public right now on purpose. Just pissed at the lack of control I have over my reactions. I have to go back two spaces so to speak...