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Sufferer Surviving ?? As A Felon At 51. He Set It Up Because I Deserved It??

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deborah2006

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After leaving 3 years of HORRID abuse and torment. I needed to know how he felt as a felon so, he set me up to get a felony and then set me up to violate probation and laughed saying, "That's what you get for leaving me, never would of happened if you hadn't of left." That was my punishment and for me, really- totally destroyed everything I was. Now trying to learn how to live with it through counseling because all I've done is hidden and isolated from Shame about something I cannot really own. It's not who I am. Yet when I tell anyone or try to volunteer...?? God I'm Shunned by so far everyone. I totally disassociated and still do. Like literally turned my whole self OFF, like a light switch till the worst was over, yet I still do it when I go anywhere like I am invisible.
The PAIN is soo unbearable.. Praying every moment to survive this.
 
Welcome to the forum. I can empathize with you...as I am living through the same type of retaliation, although different. I know that the Domestic Violence experts (in the US & Canada) recognize that the most dangerous time for a victim of DV is when leaving her/his abuser...and I have experienced first hand how the system fails to protect us during this most crucial time. I wish you safety and peace of mind.
 
I am not sure if I understand. Did you end up jailed for a crime your ex did and did he trick you into doing something that contravened your patrol without you realising it?

I found a copy of my drivers license, ss# and birth certificate under his mattress after I had gone back after leaving for the first time. Not knowing why. He had relatives and friends on Police force.

This time I was punished for a week and when he literally exploded one night and went for his son. I put my self and life in between them. I left for good that night. Went from shelter to shelter after he found me at 4 different ones. The last he said he was sorry asked me to meet him for lunch and he would then return all the things he kept from me that were mine (most were heirlooms from my family that were deceased), so I went.

I ordered tea, He ordered a very large margarita. Insisted I try it. I took a sip and He said go ahead finish it. I didn't. I took one more drink and He seemed to literally be insistant I finish it. I said you finish it and he said no. It seemed weird. He then said I had to come to his house to pick up stuff. I said no. I left.

He kept calling asking where I was, he would bring stuff. I told him and His friends surrounded me in parking lot and arrested me for DWI. I asked just give me breathalyzer so I can go home. They didn't. He said if I came back for good he would testify and take care of it. Yes, I went back. He punished me immensely, disabled my truck, locked me in closet.

He got into my computer and realized I was looking for properties out of the country getting ready to leave far far away. I had to go to court through being beat into pleading no contest / probation, I fell right into the trap. Of it became 100 times worse and I was going to be killed and no one would know so I left.

Though his family and friends I was pulled over 23 times in less that 3 months. I was at a motel out of town and was surrounded in parking lot walking my new guard dog (puppy) and arrested for DWI ??????????

I had a sworn statement from Manager of motel because we sat and talked for 2 hours about horses and stuff we had in common. But that didn't matter, just being arrested I violated probation (even though many months later they had to drop charges because, I wasn't and over and over for 10 hours I kept asking for a blood test and it was on tape several times and they refused on tape to take me to hospital.

Well 19 years and 6 months ago I received 2 DWI's which now explains why I found all my Identification under his mattress. This was planned so It was a felony. He laughed when I confronted him and took all the credit.

There was nothing I could do. I used all my assets to fight it and went to prison for 2yrs 6mo.

He still stalks me even after everything I have been through and I just can't catch him to prove it.

Sorry for long explanation. When this happened it had been 19 1/2 years and not even a parking ticket. My record would have been totally deleted and clear at 20 years. ??? He knew the law and had less that 6 months to destroy me. He continually said and says. TILL DEATH DO US PART..
 
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