How Can Someone Be Okay With The Little Things?

[Bill Dickerson]

Only little memories....only verbal/emotional abuse. I doubt it feels small or insignificant.

When you remember something nice like a Xmas morning or learning to drive it can make you feel happy. The bad memories have all of the negative stuff attached to them and they can make you feel horrible.

The memories no matter how small have emotions attached so there isn't anything insignificant about them. Don't even get me started on just verbal/emotional abuse.

When you remember your dad yelling your are feeling the emotions of that child no matter how old you are. I was stuck at thirteen and he didn't know how to deal with the crap. I had/have to keep reminding myself I'm an adult now. The feeling are the same but I can handle them differently and better now.

You said "I try to remind myself, that if it was only verbal/mental abuse, that I am okay with that.". Well I'm not you and it pisses me off just reading it. I hate to hear about an adult abusing a child. I'm agitated just thinking about what happened to you. Makes me want to say HEY it's NOT okay and it's NOT only this or that.

Sorry I guess I'm being a little short with you and that's not cool but it's important and you shouldn't have been treated that way.

 

[WillowMarie]

You said "I try to remind myself, that if it was only verbal/mental abuse, that I am okay with that.". Well I'm not you and it pisses me off just reading it. I hate to hear about an adult abusing a child. I'm agitated just thinking about what happened to you. Makes me want to say HEY it's NOT okay and it's NOT only this or that.

Thank you for that. Really. :) I have had a lot of time to think the past few days at work. I was thinking about that I actually really wanted someone to respond to this thread and say what you did, that it was damn important. I was also thinking of how I want people to respond when I share my stories with them and I want them to respond how you did. Like it was not okay he did that, he was such an ass, I can't believe he would do that to you. Instead most people are very calm, just stare at me, or don't think much of it, and it makes me doubt myself.

The feeling are the same but I can handle them differently and better now.

That is a good thing to remind yourself, I may use it sometime.


@LaurieMcLaughlin Thank you for all that info. I think I will have to give it a try. I know many of people on here have talked about meditation.

 

[Laurie McLaughlin]

No problem WillowMarie -

If you have any questions or thoughts about it just sing out.

Here is a video that might give you more insight. I am not crazy about the very end of it but I like 99 percent of what he says. His name is B. Allan Wallace and if you check up on his credentials he is pretty amazing. I am going to go to a teaching of his in April.

No, it was not right what he did. And sometimes when people just say nothing to you or do not react it is not because your experience or you are invalid - their silence is coming from their side because they are not able or don't know how to react. At least I have found that to be the case in my life.

Namaste - Laurie