Am I In The Wrong Here?

[Deleted member 27181]

I really couldn't care if action is taken. I'm not coming on this site anymore after this. Oh and I used capital letters to make sure these retarded readers actually understood what I said.

Thank you for @desiderata310 for being kind enough to understand what I feel. I felt as though the majority of you were being rude and jumping to conclusions. I clarified myself after you all posted and then you all (not you in specific) continued to disregard what I said about making the promise and ignored what I said completely and still said he was being abusive. :/

 

[Nicolette]

[notice] Personally attacking members based on their opinions is not tolerated upon this forum [/notice] Please refrain from doing so @Khione13

You're opinions should never be wanted. Only advice, but opinions are completely different to advice.

Members are allowed to participate in threads and offer their opinion.... please use the ignore feature if you would like to avoid reading another member's comments.

You actually posted a thread asking a question inviting others to participate and offer their opinions which is allowed upon this forum and members should be able to respond without you attacking them for their opinions in a mutually respectful manner.

I personally find all the swearing and yelling a bit much however I do realise that is you expressing your anger @Khione13 . Please just don't make it personal and direct it at any individual on this forum otherwise you will find yourself warned and the attacking content removed. An accumulation of attacking posts will find you banning yourself from posting.

 

[anthony]

@Khione13 you will get diverse responses when you post, just skip what isn't helpful and move on. There is no need to get defensive and name call others for their opinion. Please respect diversity of opinions, as you will get that anywhere online, regardless where you post something.

 

[Deleted member 27181]

I cannot help the fact I am a defensive person @anthony. I will stick up for myself, my boyfriend and anyone else who means a lot to me. It's who I am. I guess your forums aren't made for everyone.

 

[anthony]

I guess your forums aren't made for everyone.

Nothing online is made to suit everyone... not unless the community all respect opinion diversity, which just won't happen... thus people are the problem, not the community.

 

[Deleted member 27181]

People make up the community @anthony, which makes the community the problem, technically.

 

[Nicolette]

Without people the community would not exist so it's the people who either make or break a community...

I guess what is more important is do we move on and get back on topic or get argumentative about semantics and into a unfruitful debate.

 

[anthony]

@Khione13 I think you have an anger problem which at some point you need to deal with. I know this from reading your writing, because I had the same problem, and even today, I still have to be careful as my anger can get the better of me quickly if I'm not really honest with myself about putting thoughts into words. The military trained me to be angry, but controlled... PTSD unfortunately unleashed it to a point I have to be really careful, otherwise I could easily respond to everything here in anger, instead of more fair judgement for opinions being diverse.

Your opinions are valid, for example, thus I'm not being angry at you for having them and thus releasing some of your anger. All staff are asking here, is that you comply with forum rules in relation to directing any attack, and please don't do it. Yelling, ranting, raving, swearing, whatever... I don't care... its anger, its PTSD... its healthy to get it out, but just don't do it against another member here please, regardless how much their response pisses you off or not.

You are responsible for your responses, nobody else. We have an ignore function for good reason, so members can use it to not see content by people they don't want to (excluding staff).

 

[KwanYingirl]

@Kione13 By the way, not to change the topic, but how did your trip to Spain turn out??? Was this the boyfriend that you went there with? I hope you had a blast!

 

[Deleted member 27181]

@Kione13 By the way, not to change the topic, but how did your trip to Spain turn out??? Was this the boyfriend that you went there with? I hope you had a blast!

Yes it was him and we were fine on the holiday. It wasn't so much of a blast as I had hoped a holiday to be, but I enjoyed it. Only thing I didn't enjoy was the loss of closeness (we still haven't gotten back) between me and my boyfriend. Something weird happened over those 2 weeks, maybe it was me being left on my own a lot whilst he went off with his family into the pool or whatever (not realising I felt so alone and such), and I've just, I don't know, not got that closeness back. Me and my boyfriend are going to Germany for a long weekend alone, for our 1 year aniversairy, so hopefully, us spending time together again on our own and such will bring it back. I guess it doesn't help I maybe see him once a week right now due to him having to babysit his brother and the walk to his house (plus two buses) is too harsh on my muscles.

Thank you @KwanYingirl for asking me, it was nice of you to ask.

 

[KwanYingirl]

You were very brave to go to Spain. I remember you were quite worried. So well done, and I hope Germany will not disappoint!! Did you see the movie "The Grand Budapest Hotel"? It was a great movie and shot entirely in Germany.