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[renee5g]

I was attacked at work June of 2014 by an autistic man because of the attack I have had 2 major surgeries and 2 minor along with 3 tests that are painful.I thought I was doing ok,I could sleep for a few hours before I woke up in a panic but now I'm slipping. I was approached 2x in a week by males that reminded me of my attacker and I lost it.Does it ever get better ?

 

[katz]

I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I think I understand a little of how unique your situation is. When I married my husband, he had 4 kids. They are all up and grown and he even has grandkids. Except one. One of the boys is..."challenged." This "boy" is over 30 years old!! The rest of his family just know him as "Little" Kenny. No one, not even my husband can understand that this "boy" is not just a "Little" Kenny ! To me this is a grown man, who is not quite "right". Even though I don't think he would ever hurt me--I will never be completely comfortable with him. It took me two years to convince my husband that he could not live with us!

He lives with his mom which happens to be less than a mile from us. So, he is calling my husband 3-4 times a day. He always wants to know when he can come over. He has even walked to our house. When I tell my husband that I don't want him there "all the time", he gets angry at me. No one seems to understand that this is not a child to me - this is a full grown man, who will always be a child inside. Even his size bothers me. I have a hard time with hugs. My family just doesn't do it. Never did. Now I have to hug everyone, in my in-laws family-including Little Kenny. I work a 10 hour day, so I need to come home and rest. I can never be relaxed as long as he is there.

However, I know that this is his son, and I will never turn the boy away when he needs us. I just have to deal with the intense feelings that come over me whenever he comes over. I will always remember that he is not-or to me, will not- ever be in complete control.

I think that when someone who scares me is this kind of different, it just makes them more scary to me, especially an adult.

 

[renee5g]

I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I think I understand a little of how unique your situation is. When...

Yes their " little" boy is 20 yrs old 450-500lbs 6'5" .

 

[katz]

I'm so sorry. Where was the family when this happened,( if you don't mind me asking) I know that my "little Kenny" will never drive or live by himself.

 

[renee5g]

I worked for a company that helps disabled people go out into the community and learn basic skills.we were at an ice cream store and I told him no when he wanted a second cone.I am lucky I am alive.Some days I don't feel so lucky.

I'm so sorry. Where was the family when this happened,( if you don't mind me asking) I know that my "little...

 

[katz]

Oh, my goodness! He attacked you? Are you going to be ok?

 

[renee5g]

Oh, my goodness! He attacked you? Are you going to be ok?

I hope to get better then I am now.I have had my rotator cuff fixed,bicep reattached, labrum fixed,ulnar nerve moved out from the bones of my elbow.I still need c5 c6 fused together and nerve damaged fixed if they can figure out where it is coming from.

 

[Rosewater]

Hi @renee5g. Welcome to the forum.

You asked if it ever gets better. I believe it does. You don't say if you're getting help for anything other than your physical injuries - your mental injuries will need help from professionals if they are going to heal too.

Hope you find support and help here.

 

[renee5g]

Hi @renee5g. Welcome to the forum.

You asked if it ever gets better. I believe it...

I go 1 x a week to a psychologist but I think I need more or different meds.

 

[Rosewater]

That's a good sign. Certainly worth discussing with your psychologist.

 

[intothelight]

@renee5g Welcome to the forum! :)

I may be going out on a limb here and assuming this is a workers compensation claim and if so, are they having you see someone who specializes in trauma therapy? If you do not believe that your treatment is as effective as it could be, do not hesitate to bring it up and see what other options are available. I hope that you see some improvement soon and honestly, the information and support from this forum is a huge benefit to healing.

 

[renee5g]

@renee5g Welcome to the forum! :)

I may be going out on a limb here and assumi...