Just signed up, not really sure why... I feel what she has is PTSD, but she never went to a doctor...
Dated the ex for 9 months, always knew she had closeness issues, but not the severity until we got to close.. She was coming off a divorce after being married for 9 years in which she said they lived separate lives for 7 years, she said he never hit her, but always talked down to her and ignored her, to the point of no sex in those 7 years..
With me, she just seemed to have huge trust issues and inability to get close.. She would tell her friends how great I am, but never me.. When I asked her about that she just said she would rather be alone than open up to me.. She had anxiety problems to the point of, for lack of a better term, she said she got the shits when thought about us being serious, that it overwhelmed her thinking about the future.. And then eventually seemed like she made a HUGE deal out of what I thought was a minor thing I did..
So then I eventually got the "I just need space" from her and I completely did it get it, saying she needed space while telling me that nobody ever treated her better.. So like a fool and kept pushing her, thinking if I kept telling her how much she means to me, she would see that.. This mess went on for about 2 months, and I admit it, I was over the top because it made no sense..
About 4 weeks ago she said she needed space and was pissed I wasn't respecting her wish.. I kinda thru my hands up in the air and just said whatever.. I hadn't heard from her in 2 weeks and she hadn't heard from me, I was finally able to ignore her with a plan of not making contact for 2-3 months... But one day I get a call from the police department in her home town asking me to no contact her, she said I was bringing kids over to her house.. I was stunned, hadn't text her in 2 weeks at that point. And the really crazy thing is that she told the police about me bringing kids over.. What she was talking about happened in September.. I am a high school football coach and was across the street from her house at a youth football games, one of our players was over there watching his brother. It was 90 degrees and he asked me if I could buy him a water, I told him I didn't have cash but we could walk across the street to my girlfriends house and grab water.. So we walked over, grabbed two waters and went right back to the game. This kid was in the house for 30 seconds and at that point we had been together for 6 months and I was basically living there on the weekends.. She wasn't happy about it when it happened, brought it up a few times over the next few months, but I was stunned when she mentioned it to the police..
Now the police was cool, he said she didn't want to fill out any paper work and they know her as its a small town and she is a teacher, so was more of a favor... But still crazy to me..
So now I have no sense of direction..
Dated the ex for 9 months, always knew she had closeness issues, but not the severity until we got to close.. She was coming off a divorce after being married for 9 years in which she said they lived separate lives for 7 years, she said he never hit her, but always talked down to her and ignored her, to the point of no sex in those 7 years..
With me, she just seemed to have huge trust issues and inability to get close.. She would tell her friends how great I am, but never me.. When I asked her about that she just said she would rather be alone than open up to me.. She had anxiety problems to the point of, for lack of a better term, she said she got the shits when thought about us being serious, that it overwhelmed her thinking about the future.. And then eventually seemed like she made a HUGE deal out of what I thought was a minor thing I did..
So then I eventually got the "I just need space" from her and I completely did it get it, saying she needed space while telling me that nobody ever treated her better.. So like a fool and kept pushing her, thinking if I kept telling her how much she means to me, she would see that.. This mess went on for about 2 months, and I admit it, I was over the top because it made no sense..
About 4 weeks ago she said she needed space and was pissed I wasn't respecting her wish.. I kinda thru my hands up in the air and just said whatever.. I hadn't heard from her in 2 weeks and she hadn't heard from me, I was finally able to ignore her with a plan of not making contact for 2-3 months... But one day I get a call from the police department in her home town asking me to no contact her, she said I was bringing kids over to her house.. I was stunned, hadn't text her in 2 weeks at that point. And the really crazy thing is that she told the police about me bringing kids over.. What she was talking about happened in September.. I am a high school football coach and was across the street from her house at a youth football games, one of our players was over there watching his brother. It was 90 degrees and he asked me if I could buy him a water, I told him I didn't have cash but we could walk across the street to my girlfriends house and grab water.. So we walked over, grabbed two waters and went right back to the game. This kid was in the house for 30 seconds and at that point we had been together for 6 months and I was basically living there on the weekends.. She wasn't happy about it when it happened, brought it up a few times over the next few months, but I was stunned when she mentioned it to the police..
Now the police was cool, he said she didn't want to fill out any paper work and they know her as its a small town and she is a teacher, so was more of a favor... But still crazy to me..
So now I have no sense of direction..
