Recent content by Pebbles5280

Oh my gosh, my combat vet is the same way. He refuses to talk about anything emotional, he's been married twice and all I know are their names - nothing more. He says all that doesn't matter and never asks questions about my previous life, relationships, etc. either. I don't know if he doesn't...

Geez this sounds familiar. I obviously have not set clear enough boundaries nor enforced them consistently enough because the better I treat my combat vet, the worse he treats me. :( I have no advice because clearly I'm not doing well enough to give anyone else advice.

Talk with a lawyer asap. Life is full of choices, he's a grown man and is making his own choices. Your responsibility is to your daughter and you must take care of yourself in order to take care of her. Be strong, put you and your daughter first!

When either of us is angry, I don't even attempt to communicate with him because I know it won't go well. I tell him that we need to discuss this later when we're both calm and can have a productive discussion and I remove myself from the area. He's never happy with this but he realizes it's...

I have to agree with everyone. It's time to bail, you don't deserve to be treated like that. Be there as a friend if you feel you need to do that but I'd be very careful not to let him lure you back into a romantic relationship. Best of luck to you.

Hi AlienMongus, my partner has Combat PTSD and your post has provided me with a great deal of insight - I sometimes feel like my situation is so unique that no one understands. My friends certainly don't and that leaves me with no one except my T to talk with about this. I recognized early on...

My CV self medicates with alcohol and is currently in a very bad place. It's not uncommon for him to be intoxicated within an hour of getting home from work. I keep encouraging him to let his T know what he's doing so she can help him help himself. If I say anything directly, he seems to drink...

My Combat Vet is doing everything he can to push me away. We live currently live together and the past 6 months have been pure hell. I feel like he's doing things to force me to leave him. I love him and I'm trying so hard but I don't know how much more I can take. I could really use prayers...

I'm just curious if anyone else had difficulty with the 4th, what happened and how you handled it. We went to a very large fireworks display on the 4th and it ended very badly. He didn't tell me that he hasn't been out on the 4th for nearly 20 years. He's a Combat Vet so I knew it would be...

The wonderful thing about this board is there is no judgment or criticism. Glad you're doing better, that's the most important thing. Best of luck to you.

I'm going thru the same thing with my combat Vet. He was hospitalized in late May and upon release, he visited his T once. She suggested EMDR and long term therapy. When I tried to talk with him about it, his response was simply "I have a plan and I'll do it when I'm ready". I realize he has to...

@CharlotteB Cutting all ties does seem to be a common way for unmarried guys to deploy. Perhaps if you approach him as a friend and not as a girl friend, he would be more receptive to staying in contact (if that's possible) while he's gone. That would buy you some time to decide if you...

@Amanda_j , I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Wish I could give you a hug or tell you something to ease your pain but I can't. The push/pull is very common in PTSD relationships, mine included. There is no easy answer, all you can do...

Thank you for posting this. My NavyDoc is a Combat Vet and I have much to learn about PTSD and being a supporter. Threads like this one are very helpful and I greatly appreciate you sharing.

He's a Combat Vet