My husband is a veteran has ptsd. No treatment like me..He has some core beliefs about the news the media the situation in the US. Believes everyone should read the news etc. Really discussed it too much for me. Would not accept my boundaries till a few days ago. Together 6 years.
We were in AZ yesterday in a general store. We live in NM..He is very concerned about a bad wildfire season coming up. Rightfully so but what and when do we take action on it? Anyway he spoke to the store clerk about his concern. She said she lives right next to the forest. She did not say she had no plans herself. My husband said later he thought she had no plans let alone plan b c d etc. I did not see she said that. I feel he can be quite confrontational with people over topics like this. Times where he would be better off remembering discretion. Is the better part of valor.
Today another resident in our small town offered for us to live on her property rent free. We own an rv. It would require some changes and purchases on our part. We he first told me I was enthusiastic but I had malaise from my second shingrix vaccine dose yesterday. This evening I felt much better so I talked with him and we are not going forward with this. We are getting a newer used car on March 17.
I have the skills of STOP HALT PAUSE etc. Including keeping myself out situations I don't belong in. If I make an error I correct it. What am I seeing here? Hypervigilance? We have had terrible arguments about discusdio. Of news current events. I have a seizure risk and unnecessary emotional stress is a precipitant. He has seen my boundary as disrespectful to him and trying to control him. It is not. I will not longer discuss news current events with him. I have to say I choose not to discuss this or remove myself. I am asking for help so hopefully I can see this clearer and stop a progression of something damaging. He is a good man. I live him very much.
We were in AZ yesterday in a general store. We live in NM..He is very concerned about a bad wildfire season coming up. Rightfully so but what and when do we take action on it? Anyway he spoke to the store clerk about his concern. She said she lives right next to the forest. She did not say she had no plans herself. My husband said later he thought she had no plans let alone plan b c d etc. I did not see she said that. I feel he can be quite confrontational with people over topics like this. Times where he would be better off remembering discretion. Is the better part of valor.
Today another resident in our small town offered for us to live on her property rent free. We own an rv. It would require some changes and purchases on our part. We he first told me I was enthusiastic but I had malaise from my second shingrix vaccine dose yesterday. This evening I felt much better so I talked with him and we are not going forward with this. We are getting a newer used car on March 17.
I have the skills of STOP HALT PAUSE etc. Including keeping myself out situations I don't belong in. If I make an error I correct it. What am I seeing here? Hypervigilance? We have had terrible arguments about discusdio. Of news current events. I have a seizure risk and unnecessary emotional stress is a precipitant. He has seen my boundary as disrespectful to him and trying to control him. It is not. I will not longer discuss news current events with him. I have to say I choose not to discuss this or remove myself. I am asking for help so hopefully I can see this clearer and stop a progression of something damaging. He is a good man. I live him very much.
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