Need help & insight managing my responses

[KA60]

Married to veteran with ptsd. No treatment..We are having huge arguments over my skills STOP HALT PAUSE removing yourself from distressing people etc..I am over reacting but I am in fear. He thinks the current political situation. Will end up like bosnia where he served. No other option. He looks at news a lot. My issue- he scares me. He is a good man would not hurt me but gets extremely angry if I say you are part of our problem..Due to current US situation I am removing myself if out in public aka grocery store etc where politics Polarization comes up. I have had my limit. I control none of this and no point giving my energy to it. I am spending time outside in the evening by myself walking or sitting in lawn chair. He cannot understand why we can't discuss politics. I sure have tried. He says if you don't read the news you can't have and opinion and are responsible for the mess. And I no longer trust mainstream corporate media. When he speaks of current events it is very negative. AKA I guess trump said I killed Iran now I will kill the democrats. Or some extreme about the climate. Black white no other option..perhaps this post belongs in political venting but it is about 2 people with ptsd. Me - had treatment. His- a veteran told him to throw it all in trash right after his discharge in 1994. Help . Insight. Asking for help with me
Managing my responses. He feels he is being disrespected if I say no I will do this.
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[KA60]

Married to veteran with ptsd. No treatment..We are having huge arguments over my skills STOP HALT PAUSE removing yourself from distressing people etc..I am over reacting but I am in fear. He thinks the current political situation. Will end up like bosnia where he served. No other option. He looks at news a lot. My issue- he scares me. He is a good man would not hurt me but gets extremely angry if I say you are part of our problem..Due to current US situation I am removing myself if out in public aka grocery store etc where politics Polarization comes up. I have had my limit. I control none of this and no point giving my energy to it. I am spending time outside in the evening by myself walking or sitting in lawn chair. He cannot understand why we can't discuss politics. I sure have tried. He says if you don't read the news you can't have and opinion and are responsible for the mess. And I no longer trust mainstream corporate media. When he speaks of current events it is very negative. AKA I guess trump said I killed Iran now I will kill the democrats. Or some extreme about the climate. Black white no other option..perhaps this post belongs in political venting but it is about 2 people with ptsd. Me - had treatment. His- a veteran told him to throw it all in trash right after his discharge in 1994. Help . Insight. Asking for help with me
Managing my responses. He feels he is being disrespected if I say no I will do this.
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Here is the issue . I have a medical diagnosis that could be potentially fatal if too much stress occurs. Thst has been problem 1 from the start. His beliefs do not suit just everyone. It is like he had no sense that his words actions can really harm someone. I realize I cannot change this about him..I love him to separate would destroy our lives financially and other ways. Our dogs would be euthanized. We could be homeless. Beliefs are incredibly powerful. And illogical.

 

[KA60]

OK. I am working on this. Husband and I had really good day today and discussed current events. He understands.