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Do you have Women's Shelters in US? We do here. They are at secret locations and you can get temporary accomodation there. This would give you some headspace to work out what you want to do next. Also, they have social workers who can support you in what you would like to do and the use of...

@Skitzii I am 61 and still am surprised and shocked at other people. It's just how my brain works. I dont see the need to be an asshole or a snake so it amazes me when I see it. I am still told I am naive. Someone in another thread told me that because I had thought finding the right medication...

We are also talking about employment on another Thread about Snakes in the Grass in workplaces. My very favourite job in my whole life was as a dishwasher at a cafe. I loved it. It was fun and I kept busy and loved helping others to enjoy their day with a coffee and a chat. I did a Nursing...

@FridayJones :degree of Assholery. I love it. Am going to definitely use that one. Some assholes can be managed, reverse manipulated, confused, fooled. I did mention once before I told one therapist I need our therapy to be "How To Not Marry Another Asshole School". @Skitzii Is that your...

@joeylittle Fair point. I have mainly worked within healthcare and the hospital system in Australia. You would think that would be collaborative, but sadly it's not. It is full of bullying, power struggles and subterfuge. The Queensland Australia hospital system is notorious for its flaws. So...

Without going into analytical mode (which is hard for me) I suggest you start by going Limited Contact with her. This you gradually downgrade the amount of times you are in contact and the type of contact and the place of contact. To disarm her sense of entitlement to having an opinion, it...

@shimmerz This is where I will chime in all practical and help you buy your groceries. Celery is just really water and fibre, so put that back and take the broccoli, or even better choose Broccolini cos it's like eating tiny trees. Food must be fun too and pretty.

I cant remember the details but a group of Australian athletes and one particular ones, got themselves in big trouble using Ambien to get to sleep. One of them was found wandering the corridors of their hotel completely naked and unaware. That was so sensible to get yourself to ER @Chava ...

I think Skitzii's words were not read as they were written. She stated that she is 'smiley, chatty & polite". Nothing in those behaviours can be interpreted as being flirty . I can't see anything wrong in being smiley, chatty and polite and wearing approriate clothing so as not to call attention...

@Skitzii To say that you are the common denominator implies that you are the problem. In the case of NPD abuse, this simply means that your personality type is seen as a source of supply and a source for the N to make them feel good about themselves by showing their superiority. There is a...

@Skitzii I have exactly the same dynamic in workplaces. For me, I believe it is related to the same dynamic that attracts Narcissists to me. It took me a couple of years making it my goal to learn to recognise them. They target me. I took on the belief that until I learned how to recognise...

OH Please find that book title and let me know. I am so interested. Oops that'll teach me to read to the bottom of the thread. Thank you

By the way, I gave the last word Self a capital letter because what I mean by it is not the same meaning as the phrase, "look after yourself". I mean look after your Self as in the whole range of areas of needs that a man has. Or an adult has. Like in Maslow's Heirarchy of Needs. In any...

I know my opinion on this would be met with horror by other forum members, but I'm going to say it regardless. I think there comes a time in all entrepeneurs lives where they 'should' let go and sell up and move away from their creation. Don't get me wrong, I don't think you are doing anything...

@Skitzii I agree on your thinking about your current situation, though I know little of it, from what you described, the behaviour and attitude fitted. Just be careful please and don't reveal what you feel you have realised. It can make bullying, controlling and manipulating behaviours escalate...

I attract Narcissists and over-empathise with the pain of others too. I also attract people with Borderline Personlity Disorder and also have some 'learned traits' of BPD. None of this means you are a Narcissist. Probably the opposite. Narcissists are attracted to and actually target highly...

@Skitzii I didn't either. Over twenty years ago I went to a divorce counsellor and when she asked me what I wanted to work on I said. "I need to go to 'How Not to Marry Another Asshole School" and I need to treat it as though I am attending school. She was my teacher, I took notes, made notes...

I'll try. I need to find the Media section. Hang on.:)

He doesn't. If he did I would see that as a major character flaw in him and ask myself do I want this kind of partner. Imagine if you get cancer in ten years time and he doesn't want to hear about that either. Past behaviour is the best predictor of future behaviour. This guy is not your...

On 'FaecesBook' there was a monkey in a playpen with five puppies. He was patting them and very interested in them. One squealed loudly for no reason and he wasn't bothered at all or scared. He just touched them and sort of patted them with his fingers using a gentle scratching motion and looked...

Of course, this is separate from Disability, but the same applies. The bureaucracy respects and responds to notes kept as though they are written by a nurse or doctor and preferably sighted and signed and dated by your doctor regularly. Remember to send off photocopies of notes such as this...

If you are unable to work because of your PTSD you may be entitled to make an insurance claim through your superannuation fund. The reason you are unable to work does not have to be related to the job you were doing at the time you got sick. I worked in a private hospital for only one year and...

@Emi I wonder if it was me you spoke with. I was on a couple of forums for Daughters of Mothers with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I always tend to alert anyone I can see the dynamic in and I seem to recall talking with someone with that story of the mother wanting to come in for the...

Piccolo with high milk on the side. I like the Piccolo cos it comes in a teeny tiny glass and it makes me happy to look at it. I top it up with the hot milk bit by bit so it lasts a long time. Sometimes I have a skinny latte'. I go to a cafe every morning. More rewarding and pleasurable and...

Dilmah black tea, in loose leaf. Must have loose leaf tea in a proper teapot. Vintage Swan brand aluminium teapots are wonderful for keeping the heat and wonderful to pour from. Must have fine gone china cup or mugs. Haktari mugs are lovey to drink from and never grate on your teeth.