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Does anyone have any suggestions of how to get a rat to leave a compost bin? I'm assuming it's a rat as it's digging out half the contents, presumably to nest in there over winter. I've tried banging on the sides and kicking the bin, and putting all the compost back in, but it just digs jut out...

Sunrise in the middle of nowhere.

I wanted to thank everybody for their help with this. @Ecdysis I did look at Nora McInerny's site and got one of her books, which helped a little, so thanks. I've ended up being signed off from work for now, I'm just too overwhelmed with memories and it's aggravating the fatigue I already...

Sunlight beyond pine needles- I love seeing the world in close up.

@Friday yes, my work would not be able to understand that. It reminds me of when, after my other brother J's death, I requested to take half of my bereavement time over the week of his inquest. When it actually came to it, three months later, they told me they didn't actually know if they could...

@arfie thank you for the reminder. This is much what my T tells me to do. I'm not great at it. I'm sorry you are also going through it. @Teamwork thanks, there's lots for me to think of there. Sorry for your loss too. I forget about this. I write, but it's not been easily available to me since...

I lost my brother N in January this year. N and I went through hell together, he took the brunt of it. We lost our other brother, J four years before N died, our dad, five years before that. There's been a lot of loss and I know grief pretty well. N died of an aggressive brain tumour, after...

The belief that you care for your parents as they age no matter what. Not if they haven't earned my care. It drives me nuts how often that one crops up. Mine may not be around any more but I'm not going to be made to feel guilty about my choice. I think there's something about the way I view...

Something I learned to do was to turn my fingers in and 'scratch' with my knuckles if I couldn't not scratch. Similar sensation but you do a lot less damage. It depends how conscious you are when doing it. If you are aware, you could try distraction or grounding with something else. If all else...

One of the things I learned during the cbti course that was most helpful was that your body regulates itself, not by the time you go to sleep, but by the time you wake up. So it's more important to get up at the same time every day rather than go to bed at a fixed time. It's more helpful for...

My boys taking care of their old lady. She was some kind of throwback to an earlier version of the Burmese breed and half the size of her younger cousins.

I used to have a elderly female and two younger male cats. Turns out the males round up the prey and leave it to the female to kill. My boys did their bit. She however, decided she was too old for that nonsense and came upstairs to wake me up so I could sort the problem. It was two in the morning.

Sunset over Whitehall, from Waterloo bridge, London (Big Ben to the left). Taken some time mid January.

I forget people's names. Not random people, I mean people I've worked with five, six years plus, those sorts of people. It's so much fun hanving a conversation with someone and finding yourself at this point where you're trying to describe someone you both know well but you haven't a clue what...

Sort of, yeah. Not work related but I've had enough of it in family for various reasons, including at risk of suicide and there've been times when it's stopped me sleeping even though I knew in truth there was nothing I can do to prevent whatever might happen. So yeah, I kind of get it. And it...

The world in a raindrop.

About NHS CBT- My T once told me that the majority of their therapists aren’t really therapists at all. Basically they go on something like a six-week course to get signed off. The good ones realise when they’ve got someone who needs more support than they’re trained to give, but many of them...

A childhood friend posts a photo of you on Facebook in which you have your arm around them and the first thing that comes to mind is ‘I used to be able to touch people?’

@Teasel’s trees look like white flowering cherries to me. I had a pink one at my old place. They’re beautiful trees.

I’ve been thinking about this. After my father died I lost my purpose in life, literally didn’t know who I was supposed to be right down to what foods I liked. Took me a good few years and a bunch of therapy before I started to figure that out. Eventually I realised I needed to move- new house...

I work in retail. We don’t give a crap about losing the odd customer. What we do care about is protecting our staff from violent and aggressive individuals who would quite happily take it out on us. Is our company to enforce the rules and risk having its own staff attacked? We can remind people...

Thanks both for your replies. Not too late. I’m not as bad as I was today, but it’s changing day to day right now. @blackemerald1 I think you’re right about the depression. It’s something I haven’t had to deal with in a long time and its return really threw me. Logically I know all I can do is...

Not sure what I’m asking for. I’ve been under a lot of pressure lately, work stuff mostly, but also other things. I blew up at my manager a few days ago, yelled at him, probably went too far. I’m off now for 10 days but I’m going to have to do something about that when I go back. In the...

I am the daughter and sister of men who were abused by a woman. That woman, to my knowledge, never laid a finger on me. I am also probably what most people would consider a feminist, but my views on women and equality do not automatically cancel out my understanding of abuse relationships. In...

My region you wouldn’t know we’re still under lockdown. A big chunk of the population is out and about just as usual. They come to the store where I work, complain about having to queue outside, complain again once inside about there being too many people whilst ignoring the distancing rules...