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Greetings. And welcome. I am so clueless. I wish I could say more or have an answer or eloquent solution. If ever there was a post that defined why this website exists, yours is it. How do you lead a horse to water? And then have him drink? Patience, love, and tolerance; understanding and...

I seem to have gone into hypertension or hypervigilance zones before. They seem to come from nowhere and don't always seem to have reason. It borders on panic. I have to find quiet places and settle out. Usually I feel I can trace it to a lot going on in my mind or life at the moment, but not...

Thank you Muse. Very well spoken. I can't add anything of value additional except a lot of exclamation points! ! ! !! ! ! ! ! ! ! ...

I don't think you are alone at all. I believe some people feel as you do. I also think perhaps you are very sensitive and caring, which may make you perhaps a little hypersensitive? I find myself that way sometimes. Also, I think that people who are hard working and sensitive are taken...

I don't know if I'm blessed, or crazy, or stupid or insane. But I don't like being negative. I don't like feeling down and depressed. And the closer I get to "IT" the harder it is to get out. I often times seem "blessed" with this crazy sense, or "ability" to desire to feel better, to want...

Yes. Not myself, but I have seen postings about this. Especially clowns. And I have a nephew with an incredible fear of mascots/clowns. Throw him in a Chucky Cheese and I think he'd kill everything between himself and the exit. It should definitely be taken seriously. I have an insane fear of...

Cool. There are no hard and fast rules. It could really work out great. It sucks, yes.... but I recall a saying: "That which does not destroy you, will make you stronger." Life is a journey, so amongst the stress, take some time for you and the kids to enjoy. Again, best wishes.

If he's still ignoring you then he's still playing "the game". He's still trying to exercise narcissistic control over you, the kids, the environment. It's still a "control" issue. That is the narcissists game. And if he's doing it, he's playing the game, rather he knows it or not...

Thank you Freedomfighter for wise words. I agree. It is very wise to balance caution when performing acts of kindness or humanity. Lest we place ourselves in danger of another ptsd causing traumatic event for ourselves or families. Good judgement is certainly important. Empathy for others...

Thanks Mal. It's a forgotten art as people today walk around with their noses in their phones, unable to even acknowledge, say Hi, or avoid trampling you as they immerse themselves in their "me" worlds. And then they wonder why they feel hollow and life has no meaning. They want to compile...

Being a supporter is an incredible thing to do. It takes a very special and a very strong person to be one. Thank you for your message. You have made me realize how much more I could appreciate those around me, because I isolate incredibly and I'm sure it causes pain and hurt which I never...

Right on Friday! @NvrGveUp I got called out of town. A couple thoughts before I go: You need support. Part of the bully ex's strategy is to undermine and destroy your support mechanisms and make you look like the psycho. (BullyBasics101) You will be fighting an "image" battle as he preens...

I'm not where I can post so I'm leaving a short message until I can get to my computer later. I relate. I am fighting a wealthy millionaire and his army of lawyers and nay sayers. You need to believe in yourself. I am 5 years past initial trauma (17years of abuse). In my case 4 have died and...

I didn't know you were going through court. Whenever I see you're on or have posted I send a little prayer. You work hard at healing and sharing and supporting. You deserve the best. I hope things go well for you. Get some rest. Best wishes.

Hi Mim, I am only offering insight into what helps me sometimes.... You need to build a block wall off to one side. A virtual, solid, concrete block wall. You need to mentally put all those negative thoughts on the other side. Behind the wall. They might try to ooze through the cracks or over...

Hi LilSam, Make I make some observations and suggestions? Your post infers that you suck at socializing and also that you're not completely happy with that. I think that might provide some indication of an answer? You're not used to relationships with people that are nice, you say. Here, I...

The healing power that is contained within this website, those who post and share, those who listen to me, is more curative than I dreamed possible. I've found support. I've found friends. I've received compassion, understanding, and acceptance. For the first time in many years I feel that my...

You're not ruining your life. And leaning on us is why Anthony & Nicolette built this website. When we need to lean back someone will be there for us. What are some of the things you enjoy doing in life? Did you get a chance to do any of them today?

Sounds like you're pushing too hard. And you are beating yourself up. Neither are necessary. I wish I had more time to post right now but I have food and laundry and things all going. I so relate to the "feelings", the anxieties, the self criticism and doubt. It is so important to keep ahead...

This website is a lifesaver. Literally. That is a beautiful picture of your friend. Do you realize you were her support human? The best days of her life were spent after you rescued her. A life she would have never had otherwise. There are days in my life where the only thing that I may...

Got it. Yep. Insomnia is tough. I've had it much of my life. Outside activity, hiking, walking, biking, zoos, parks, stuff like that all helps me today with insomnia. But I also sort of gave up fighting it and took a third shift job for 17 years. It seems not so much to be insomnia with me...

Loneliness is a huge trigger. Can you get in touch with people that know you well? Phone, text, email, blog? I try to make sure people that know me and my circumstances, habits, and tendencies are aware when I start going into negative headspaces. I used to skip that part but it nearly cost...

I have a fatal and progressive disease. I was told that the progression of that disease, alcoholism, can be arrested by keeping myself in fit spiritual, mental, and emotional condition. As part of that I had to do a complete inventory of my character defects and learn how to manage them by...

I plan on ignoring 99.9% of all media coverage. It is all like a very loud white noise.... or more like a car alarm going off next to me that won't shut off. Why do I want to listen to it? Kind of like a far off college football game - I'll just check the score and see who won the next day when...

Alzheimer and dementia patients often have fixations on babies. They often obsess over little children to an unhealthy level. You are wise to be cautious and protective and probably for good reason. One of the solutions that caregivers have for this compulsion is to provide the elderly...