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Consider this: you are doing us all a favor exposing your PTSD brain to scientific review, in real time. Nightmares like you describe come to me as well. Having the courage to let your sleep be examined has to be a good thing -- people must understand how messed up our neural pathways are...

Good Morning to All, How long does it take you to recover from a bad trigger incident? What strategies work to get back to some kind of steady state? I am sitting at desk like a zombie after horrid Sun and Mon, the dam broke last night and the episode is over, but it takes me up to a week to...

This is 100% accurate. You absorb the pain of others and own it. I was embedded in an ultra-low income environment and became depressed because you take in what I call, "world hurt." It's too much, and it's ok to celebrate and appreciate and leverage our personal good fortunes, in my case...

Yes we gravitate toward causes b/c the world done us wrong and we are good at spotting harm and BS. I left social justice sphere 1 year ago and life is a lot nicer. Social justice likely means philanthropy, which in my case became a total sham IMHO. The people's lives never changed. Who...

Your mom may not going to see your deciding to live elsewhere in a positive light. You seem clear, stay with that. Listen to your inner voice. Don't be clouded by anger and fear, they fuel PTSD. You're not too young to do this; be bold, do it for you, and no decent mother would do this to...

I am the mom of twin college students, and I have PTSD. Full support of everything above. The dynamic is hard and I have a calm and loving household. Don't stay if you can live a healthy life for the next few months away from home. Relatives? Dear friends?

You are all so kind. I don't know if my marriage will make it but I do know I must honor my fundamental right to a peaceful life. x

Now I'm getting the silent treatment.

I'm such a loser. Loser loser loser loser. All my life. Trying so hard, working so hard, and putting on a good face.

Thank you. You know I need help too and that is so reassuring.

My deepest pain comes from no one caring about my suffering. This morning I tried to express a big anxiety to my mate and he took it as a personal insult. He called me names, and patronized me, and made me feel like a fool. Now I hate myself again. I have a giant set of tasks ahead of me and...

It's so damned lonely to be like this. Coping, not living. Managing not participating. Worrying constantly, fear welling up inside, nowhere to turn. You can't tell other people about this, they'll lock you up.

Please don't hurt yourself. Remember that how we see ourselves is through the blackest and most negative lens. Remember that your brain lies, your brain is diseased and can't function well. It's not your fault. Don't hurt yourself for something someone else did to you. I'm struggling right...

I'm struggling with this today, right now. I gouge my belly with my fingernails out of self-hate. I'm trying right now not to go upstairs and watch myself in the mirror. Also feel like running today -- going to the graveyard and praying for death. What a f*cked up life. 54 years old, I've...

I feel your sitch. Isn't it awful trying to find an even keel when your hormones and brain are simultaneously freaking out!!

Good Morning, A nasty start to the day. I tried telling my mate I was feeling triggery about something that is undone in our lives -- it's not a huge thing, but it's getting to me. My husband understands and is my rock but I can't always convey my feelings well when triggery, so we fought. I...

It's what we do -- talk to our own kind about our weird brains. You can heal.

The nightmares are tough. Scared all night long. Talk about them, write about them, bore into the underlying emotions. Mine came from, "I need to protect my mother, get us to safety." Soooooo PTSD, right?? Try to distill the nightmares' messages to the very basic emotions they are bringing...

Highly insightful. It's what he usually wants after a big trigger episode, and during that time I feel neglected. I guess I wish he didn't plop himself in the middle of the household during those recovery days, it feels like he's controlling the entire scene; until he's 100% we wait it out...

Yes, getting out of your own head is key. Lots of thinking time does not work for me. I wish my hubby got this part, that the outside world is more functional than the space between our ears (we are both CPTSD). This requires trusting that the world is more stable than our coping mechanisms.

What prompted you to change your ways?

No. I don't think so. His defenses are built around narrative that he is fine but forces around him prevent his happiness. He offers me advice on how to work with him, but it still comes back to I'm okay when I'm not triggered.

This guy is starting to get me down. We both have CPTSD, I'm further along in healing. Another huge weekend fight, where I was again told that if I didn't trigger my husband then he wouldn't be so pissed at me. In other words, if you think what you are going to say may upset me, then don't...

Sunflower I get it. Exhausting to constantly monitor. I am finding it is far less exhausting to expect P/A responses as the norm, thus enjoying like hell the times when he responds in a balanced fashion. He's "on" to me. Talking about how he is lonely and things have changed. No you're not...

This is incredibly helpful. I have been researching and applying tools to reframe my own reactions to his passive-aggressive strategies. I fgure a "golden rule" approach is a good idea. First one is to stand in my place, calm/assertive not angry/aggressive. 2nd, keep my sense of humor, stay...