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Thank you, I was in therapy and it helped. She was great and had a background in PTSD. Unfortunately, changed jobs and insurance didn't cover her and the thought of starting agaib with someone new was, I don't know, overwhelming I guess. I'd like to go back, but, cost is a factor. And star of...

So, some of you may remember me. Was in a 2.5 yr long distance relationship with a sufferer who suddenly just started ignoring my calls and texts. Then a year later started contacting me again as if he missed me, but soon found out he had been with another woman he had "just fallen in-love...

I can only say that with my ex I would be so wrapped up in his issues and my compassion for what he dealt with that it took years for me to finally hear his "it's my PTSD" as his standard and reason for not taking accountability for his actions. Love can make women stupid. And swimming thru the...

I know so well how this feels. I just wanted to give you some support. Keep taking care of yourself. Remember, you come first. Supporters tend to put their sufferer first. I realize now that I did. Being avoided, isolated from is extremely painful. I'm here is you ever need someone to talk to...

Thank you so much for that. And I hope things go well for you!! Sometimes it can be so hard to accept good things. I hope you keep the chaos at bay. You deserve more, you deserve better!! I wish you only the best.

Thank you all so much! I really appreciate it so much.

Please do not attack me or my ex, but this is the only place I can talk. The few friends I have I get too protective, too ready to hate him for me, for the pain he has caused me. I understand that, I need a place I can feel I can talk without feeling like I will be made to feel weak or stupid. I...

I don't know if this will help, but some sufferers can hear the words (or read them), but it doesn't mean they will accept them or really understand them. Many don't believe they deserve or can return love. I might start with telling her that you care a great deal and am there for her. Just...

I guess I want some input from sufferers. My ex (were together 2.5 years) cut me out of his life for 13 months and then contacted me. He said he wanted us back, but then failed to follow through on what I asked for to feel safe trying again. Finally I said we could be friends. I was even feeling...

@FridayJones - what you said hit a real nerve with me a. If I'm not out of line, you should tell her what you told us. Or send her a copy, if you can. It would have made a huge difference if my ex could have said something like that to me. I hope you find a way back to her. And I hope you don't...

You font want my opinion of the military , especially their wilingness to send someone back. But yes, with my ex, there was a lot of push/ pull. And I usually knew he was going to isolate when he he would only respond to some text mssges or he'd give one word responces. Sometimes they just need...

In my experience, it takes a long time and a lot of info to get a grasp on PTSD. Parts of it are well known - triggers, flash backs. But the depression, isolation, avoidance, numbing of emotion issues are lesser know, in my opinion. A lot of it goes against most people with "normal" brain's...

I think most supporters should try therapy. I found my ex-sufferer went through times where he wasn't there for me or couldn't be an emotional support system for me. Being a supporter is hard, really hard. I would highly recommend therapy and most insurance covers therapy now. It is a good...

As an ex-supporter of someone with cPTSD who didn't tell me until we had been dating for about a year, I say be upfront about it. No one needs all of the details, but you let out small bits at a time. Those conversions happen. I remember telling him about my trust issues and my fear of being...

I'm not sure how much help I can be, but my ex-sufferer did a lot of the push/pull thing and the distance usually happen after we had gotten past some kind of relationship hurdle or had gotten to a closer level. It's extremely painful and confusing. One day looks full of love and smiles and the...

I guess I give him too much leeyway with the PTSD, but we were in a committed relationship for 2.5 years. I learned a lot of the signs of his PTSD, but I'm sure not all. In that time he isolated once for about 2 weeks and once for a little over a month. Looking back I did not set enough...

Really just looking for understanding. I know how this affects me and know I shouldn't accept this, and my decision is made. However, I want to understand. My ex-sufferer isolated for a year, then suddenly texted me that he missed me and was just under too much stress. We are long distance. I...

Thank you so much, you brought up lots of issues I had not considered. I really appreciate all of the feedback and suggestions! He did do a lot of work in his therapy for anger management, but was told by the AM Therapist that he could not improve his depression/ isolation/ and numbing...

Thank you for that. Honestly, that's my biggest consern. If he went back to therapy and that T wasn't competent or gave incorrect info like his last or just wasn't a good fit, it would be done. I cannot see him going through trial and error. But he doesn't have medical ins, so a private one...

Thank you!! Any suggestions on the best way to approach the topic?

Thank you!

My ex is ex-Navy, but his PTSD is due to his service and a very abusive childhood. He has done private therapy before, but as mostly Anger Management, not PTSD focused although they did diagnose him with it. My question is does anyone have any suggestions for free or inexpensive therapy options...

Honestly, I'm ok. Yes, confused. Would like to understand why he does this. But, I feel ok. When he canceled, I was mad. I didn't cry. I wasn't even really suprised. After a few days, I feel ok. I feel like I have more closure than I had before. I did talk to my T about it all. I told her I...

Please help me understand - a man with PTSD reaches out to the woman he has ignored for a year (after a 2.5 yr relationship), I know isolation/ avoidance- says he misses her and wants to see her, asks her to come see him (they live in different cities). She tells him she can see him the next...

I just want to clarify, I did not mean to sound manipulative. We have always had two boundaries, I would leave if he ever hit me (luckily his anger has never been an issue) and that if he ever cheats on me, I will not bein his life. I understand I can put a timeframe, if you cut me out if your...