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My well meaning mistake to post this reference meaning to give credit to the person whom said this quote which had relevance to me. I won't make this mistake again.

Thank you Dharma Girl. Apparently I was not supposed to post that quote, here. I thought I should attribute it to the person who said it but I guess I wasn't supposed to. I made a mistake I guess. This is a good forum...I didn't know I was doing wrong and just knew that once was a well known...

https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/walk+softly+and+carry+a+big+stick This was the quote I was referring to.

I tend to write in run on sentences. I root for you Dharma Girl. I root for your relationship with your Mom even though I guess it's flawed. Mine is I guess idk prob beyond repair...??? 😢 You are wise to know your Mom is old and therefore some things are not worth fighting about and well it's...

I also live in " cow country". Good on you for advocating w doctors. Here where I live folks w or I should say I did not get compassion I got the opposite and downright obvious bullying and discrimination about mental illness. I think it's because I am outspoken and catch them at their mistakes...

I meant to write more. I hope your Drs treat you better. I had to chg specialists b/c of the mean dumb and incompetent antics they did. And I have one superb P.A... and some other specialists that are ok. It's a shame that women are treated the way we are by the medical community esp if we have...

Thank you for the reply. It was shocking to me what I encountered which was so ugly with my medical care trying to be heard and bullied actually. Truly. I mean to the point I could report it but what good would it do me??? People in power...some not all and seems to be often mid level and...

On a lighter note and (I hope it's ok I rehashed my story) I gave myself an (I think) actually sort of good cuticle scissors trim on my long hair...ha. In these Covid times it's nice to be able to do that....also Im frugal. Also Ive had hair cut traumas....I have a name for it the " hair...

I would like new relationships. I would like my life not to hinge on my Mother and or be defined by the horrendous abuses that happened to me all over the place... in my home and in systems that got manipulated....and bad lawyers...etc. There is lack of due process in the things I was put...

My Mom has blamed me for my own abuse since my teen age years so....30 years or more. She denies things that happened and or blames me. She tells herself and others that I am crazy. This is the go to thing for abusers to do to " get away" with it....dehumanize and discredit the victim and yes...

I am struggling to keep my head above water here in snowy central Pa. I hve shared parts of my very difficult story of no family and blame for my own abuse. I was kicked out of my family. I am in my 40s and living on my own paying my bills but struggling to stay on Medicaid which keeps me in a...

The first sentence is my life now. I hope to be where you are. But yes I also have no family an abusive ex of about 20 years ago we were off on forever. I do stay in my isolation. I do also live in a town where it's hard to meet ppl but you are challenging me to maybe try. I didn't follow how...

Yes the problem is I don't have supports or coping strategies other than that ??? When things get hard and my life was/is the epitome of hard. I am grateful that your wakeup call resulted in healthy changes for you. I think yeah it's hard to just stop drinking when you don't have other coping...

English is my first language. I type on an old pc and am having brain freezes maybe due to stress not eating and alcahol binges. I saw that you are 18 months sober and that is wonderful and inspiring. I could only at most do 2 weeks at a time in my adult life. Quitting smoking too! I became a...

I am also struggling with these sort of things. Can relate.

I am struggling with alcahol abuse and like above someone in uk said a criminal conviction though I don't have that. I have something akin to it. And I didn't deserve it. A restraining order from my own mother after she and her husband abused me? Help? It may be hard to believe for some who...

Recover from the trauma of abuse then being put on trial and basically crucified for my own abuse and being labeled FALSELY an abuser. This is the preposeterous thing but it can happen. It's called a restraining order in other states. My own mother put on on me yet followed me the person who is...

This is a hard one to disclose. I am dealing with this every day for the last few years and will for another few half way through one in Pa. Sometimes and in my case these vehicles for good at times are misused for malicious and revenge purposes....in my case for making flip comments about my...

I felt the same way about Bates Motel. Lol. I was very drawn into this series and it did make me feel a tad better about my life. Easy to binge this dark series. It had hints of Twin Peaks maybe. Good acting in it. One of my old classmates Joshua Leonard of Blair Witch "fame" made a cameo in it...

If the therapist told you to run which is how I read this and I am having a hard day myself also feeling very alone....I do suggest you think about maybe divorce. Ppl who use your past to hurt you don't love you. I also have medical issues. My Mom blasted me for this. PPl dont use your past to...

I had a narcisstic ex bf of on off 11 years. I believe I know and he even said I put up w it b/c of my crap family/childhood trauma. He said, " I am bad though not as bad as your family." He beat and cheated on me and verbally abused me and you know what maybe he wasn't as bad. He was on par...

I would very much like to leave my home town. I would say it's a good idea if you can. It can give new opportunities and perspectives on life and yourself. I did it long ago when I had less stuff. Now I am bogged down w more stuff....literally and otherwise. I would very much like to "escape"...

I am brand new to this forum too. From links to similiar threads I guess I have some similar experiences. I have had childhood and adult physical and other abuse. I also was abused legally which led to I believe c ptsd. My mother/ stepfather abused me in every way possible and also through...