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Great insight Gizmo:tup:

Oh I so feel for you Findingmyself88, (((Big Hug))). I think it's really significant that you said that you cried in therapy for the first time. Maybe you are coming to a new level of acceptance and understanding of yourself and processing the emotional reality of that. I can remember when...

Good luck Jane.I, you can also ask your Dr for a prescription for the actual procedure like valium. I did that once for a dentist visit, it definitely helped.

Suzetig, I have a problem with this too. I have forgiven my two adult life abusers, this only happened in recent years. The forgiveness came, for me, in realizing just how abusive their own childhood's were. It has also helped to watch them age and see how unhappy and unfullfilling their...

Oh Jane, I so empathize with exactly what you are saying. I too have the very same problem. I didn't have a pap smear for 20 years, say no more. It took me a long time and like you, a major concern to have to face up to the reality. What I did was, make a booking at a specialist Women's...

I love your post Barberian, so true that it's the internal dialogue that is the thing that matters. If I saw you walking down the street, I would think 'there goes a fellow earth child, and a man who is not afraid to show it'. :joyful:

I find that the older I get and the resulting insight into people I have, I see more and more, how dysfunctional my childhood was. I'm 45 now and have two Grandaughters. I especially have lots of intrusive memories since they have been born. They are having a wonderful early childhood already...

Thanks Lucycat and Anthony, I get it now. That's exactly the misunderstanding that happened re 'Monthly'.

Hi Anthony, thanks for the blunt and honest update. I don't mind the ads and I would not like to think of you bearing the financial stress involved in keeping the site going, alone. I have a question. Sorry if the information is there and I haven't seen it, I'm new and trying to find the time...

FabulousEnding, I have just returned to tertiary study in the last two weeks. If it's any consolation, we don't get such amazing help here in Australia such as service dogs, so were on our own, as far as I know anyway. Someone please correct me if I'm wrong on that. I was really anxious about...

Hi McCray, that way a big day you had, I'm so sorry that you endured such things. I'm not sure how common or uncommon what you are asking specifically is. I do believe that pre-verbal children (or children that haven't learned right/wrong or more complex words) act out their thoughts and the...

Hi dougy, I'm sorry you are feeling the way you are, I too have felt the same at times in my life. I think the above posts have some great suggestions for steps in the right direction. I'm one of those people who have also experienced joy in the midst of the most intense darkness by choosing...

Hi Justmehere, I have found that kind of visualization really helpful too when there are just too many things to deal with at once. It's important to use the kind of symbols that mean something to you and not just something that someone suggests, unless you like it. For me a box is just not...

Thanks RussH, I so appreciate you saying that. I used to think that the only nice people in the world were all going to Church where I wouldn't meet them because I don't go there. It's so true that sometimes ours wounds lead us to great things that we would otherwise never have discovered about...

Thanks xena21 for your kind thoughts. Yes, I do see that part of me, it's a bit scary to carry that around - my warrior protector part is with me always now, forever a part of me. It's myself it has the battle with these days. I had four kids to carry with me, they are all grown up now and when...

I see so much of my own stories in the above posts, both my childhood and adult abusive relationships. FridayJones, you are like Queen Boadicea. She was a Celtic Queen who led her army into battle on her chariot, wiping out the armies of those that invaded her land and raped her, then her two...

I think so too Joeylittle, it sounds to me as if you both took a positive step forward in the relationship. What a perfect analogy the horse-whisperer is too. Don't we all need a horse-whisperer! :joyful:

FridayJones, that above paragraph was pure poetry. Beautiful.:joyful:

Hello ticachica03, I'm sorry to hear that you are experiencing what you are and what you have been enduring for some time. There are many things I'd like to say about your boyfriend's actions. Obviously I can only guess at some things, so I won't but I will go on the things that you have said...

Hi Kirsten, my heart goes out to you to hear that you have been through such a thing and as well as that, coped mostly on your own. I agree with all that the above members have said. The thing that came to mind for me, when I read you story was that, sometimes the response to trauma doesn't...

Hi Me Myself and I, I cannot imagine how that must feel and there is not much I can say to you except keep posting and know that there are people who are listening and care. :hug:

How are you feeling today, now that you have read all the above posts?:)

That's awful Pixi23, about your father I mean. It sounds to me that the therapist you were seeing wasn't very good for you. I understand the bit about being poor. The same thing happened to me once. The woman walked out of the session five times to attend to 'something important' while I was...

Hi Pixi23, when I'm really overwhelmed with stress and bad thoughts, I take really slow deep breaths until I feel my heart calming and focus on relaxing my muscles. You might have to get out of the house for a walk somewhere to do it. Now is where the road gets tough but it's not all bad. You...

Seems like you are being taken for granted which is enough to make anyone feel angry. Imho Bill, the long term stress to the body of all that adrenaline and cortisol running around inside you will take it's toll on your health eventually, you are right in that. Colorado sounds like a good...