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@joeylittle already said it, but this right here is shame.

I can't tell you for sure it will get better (heck, I can't tell you for sure that the sun will rise tomorrow) - but I'm pretty sure it will. And you did use your skills to keep from going into a total tailspin - so congratulate yourself on that! I have found that kids can be triggering - I...

@Ed Norton I think empanadas and jerk off day (EandJO day) is in August, but I'm not sure.;) @The One Who Knocks - not everyone on this thread is male (or necessarily a gentleman) :)

It probably won't help the compulsion to pick at your feet, but you might consider seeing a podiatrist and getting medication to help your feet heal. You wouldn't have to tell him what's going on with the peeling (I'm guessing a lot of people do it - my mother used to sit and pick at her...

No BJ for me (either as the gifter or receiver), but I just may have a steak and (for all you brits out there) a "jacket" potato!

I agree - she sounds like a DBT therapist...and if you decide to go this route and choose her as here therapist, she will clearly tell you up front the reasons that she would terminate you (if she is a well trained and decent DBT therapist)...and a DBT therapist won't drop you because of your...

It has taken me years to understand this and to accept it and to stop blaming myself when I've become deeply "attached" to a therapist. I have recently started with a new therapist with the goal of specifically working on the trauma(s) and we have spent a lot of time circling around this issue...

This. This right here. After this statement you go on to list a bunch of the things tied into this - self-hate, mom issues - but maybe the fact that you are not like everyone else and you will never be "normal w/o PTSD" is what you could try some radical acceptance with. And that means...

I think it's perfectly understandable that starting with a new therapist can be anxiety producing. Therapy is such a weird thing - I'm still trying to wrap my brain around it and I hate that I spend so much time examining the process and not working on actual issues - but maybe that's part of...

Sleep deprivation causes massive distorted thinking. Please take yourself to the hospital - either for insomnia or to go in-patient until you get some sleep. I can't tell you "things will get better" - but the lack of sleep is, at the very least, exacerbating your depression and suicidal ideation.

You are in my thoughts.

@Eleanor - your last two posts are eloquent and articulate and I agree with them 100%.

The issue isn't as simple as determining whether or not porn is "legal" or "illegal". For me, pornography is dehumanizing. It takes one of the most beautiful and intimate actions human beings can have and turns it into something else entirely. Do I think porn should be criminalized? No. Do...

These make me sad... As a unapologetic feminist (and humanist), I think that it's more than this model's "choice" (and I looked up the cover picture, and it makes me sad too). There is systemic sexism (probably more acurately described as misogyny) that seeps into everything...across most...

I think the critical point here is "you need to be aware of them". I suspect many people in crisis are not able to comprehend their rights and sometimes the people "in charge" either don't have the time, the energy, the compassion or the knowledge to explain these rights. I think there are a...

I'm not sure if you're looking for a response...but I agree with a lot of what you've said. I am very disheartened by the mental health system...and psychology/psychiatry in general...and yet I keep going back. Sigh.

It is your therapist's job to handle her own triggers and issues...and if she can't handle them, or is not equipped to help you, she is ethically obligated to refer you to someone else. As scary as being referred out is, it might be the right thing to do. On the other hand, she may be willing...

This thread is old and my quote is taken out of context. The OP was expressing her fear of fainting. The example I gave (being hospitalized) was a huge fear for me and by looking at it from a different point of view, I was able to take some of the fear and shame out of it. I can say, that...

So...I think I'm starting to sound like the DBT drum beater...but...DBT has a hierarchy of treatment targets (although, it's kind of fluid as long as the life-threatening ones are being targeted). The first target is suicide behavior and self-harm and this is addressed in a pretty basic CBT...

This doesn't seem to me to be quite about impermancence. If it were, you would be able to accept that BOTH the good and the bad feelings were impermanent. Instead, it seems, the one bad thing is negating the 100 good things. That, to me at least, would be more of a cognitive distortion...

I agree with this 100%. From what you are describing, you may be too symptomatic to delve into your trauma right now. I would recommend learning some grounding and distress tolerance skills and try to get to a solid baseline before diving into the muck. I suspect that once you start on either...

@Chava - my DBT group makes me cranky, but it is effective. I suspect I may just be a generally cranky sort of person. I've also been working on a modified "WRAP" (Wellness Recovery Action Plan) so that I can keep an eye on things if they start to slip. I tried to pull one of these together...

This is exactly how I feel right now. I know that therapy is hard and the belief is "you have to get worse before you get better" - but "talk" therapy makes me a lot worse - like suicidal-all-the-time, close to non-functioning worse. And, much to my surprise, the DBT skils group has helped...

Nope - not your fault - not even kind of. This woman was assaulting you and you, a child, were in a place where you couldn't have said anything - what were you going to do, disrupt the whole meal by shouting "WTF are you doing woman, that's my penis!" (actually, that would have been fantastic...

I am currently on therapy "vacation" with an appointment scheduled in March to reassess what I want to do. I am still in a DBT skills group but will finish that up fairly soon. I had a "crisis" last October after being triggered in therapy (different therapist from the one I'm taking a...