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Please try to set goals . Even small ones. Break them down into tasks and sub tasks. When I was I back in my own apt in july 2014 recovering from a craniotomy and bacterial meningitis of my brain I did this. Now I am engaged have a dog a cat am a sars cov 2 survivor. My fiance is a trauma...

I began stuttering around age 3 and had speech therapy/ treatment from a psychologist. The advice given to my parents- stop the perfectionism. They did not. I am now 59 a retired RN and trauma survivor. Your post resonates with me. My father and mother now must accept my no contact rule and me...

I just ended my relationship with my parents by asking to make my brother their 100% beneficiary on all bank accounts etc. I give up on trying to change anybody but me. My family - what is left can come on ad nauseam scapegoating me and anyone else. The river denial runs long. If they fail I...

Pay god so to speak first. I guess that turned out in reality that healthcare came second.

Yes I had this problem and still sometimes do. I have had to become careful about what I allow in my life including phone calls. Our world is complex and phone trees are real. The human brain can only tolerate so much stress. It may not be all you but other people expecting you to except 100...

I like what you said about people coming and going- friends coming and going. In life's infinite wisdom they served their purpose for that time in our life journey.

I was required to read Codependent No More as part of my trauma recovery. Later on my own I learned about how trauma codependency and addiction are connected more through online research. I saw this play out in the last church I attended. The church was giving a member financial support then a...

Thank you black emerald 1 I agree. I hope you are finding the same or similar. This site has helped me. Ever forward.

I recovered from my sars cov 2 diagnosis/ infection. So did my fiance. He got sick too. Off work for 2 weeks. I will not return to caregiving. We are focusing on the online second income and other issues. I am not responsible for the world but realize everything is interconnected. Sars cov 2 to...

At this point I have to ask a tough question. Does anyone want a better life? Who is getting secondary gain? Does someone have a vested interest in allowing this abuse/ victimization to continue? I am very sorry you and your SO are in this situation. I have had a past history of...

Face your fears and get tested. Yes I had symptoms and tested positive for sars cov 2 on july 8. I am fine now except angry at the FLA governor asking us survivors to be tested for antibodies so we can donate plasma to help others. I am a retired RN. I will always do what my doctors say . Not...

PTSD symptoms occur from domestic violence. I advise you to set clear boundaries for yourself. Safe ones. You need professional help as well. Make sure you have a safe place to stay. If minor children or pets are in harm's way call the police. An expert order or order of protection may be needed.

AJ - I am a retired RN. I once did psychiatric nursing. My fiancee is I think positive too for sars cov 2 right now. He has had more symptoms than me. I am mounting some immune response- My symptoms are gone. I take melatonin for sleep. I have a recumbent exercise bike in our apt for exercise...

Well actually I am not chickening. I am positive for sars cov 2. The daughter of man from second caregiving job told me she was positive for covid on day 11. She was deceptive. I had a seizure risk from a craniotomy in 5/14. Became seizure free july 2019. I resigned from this job too. I had mild...

I just caught up on all the posts AJ. I am very sorry for your losses. Take care of you. Our physical and mental health are interconnected. Can I suggest a physical exam as well?

How can we help? Are you able to define any negative core beliefs or cognitive distortions? You say are not sleeping. Definitely your neurotransmitters are imbalanced just from that. Multiple life stressors do the same as well.

Welcome. Glad you are here. Ever forward to recovery. You are the CEO of your life.

In my opinion they are perhaps questioning your reality. I have mine established. If a govt agency has violated mine it needs to be dealt with. Refurbished vs. new computer is a personal choice- a person's reality dictated by finances. We can be influenced by others even manipulated. I have to...

I think it is called cognitive overload. It has been an individual learning process for recovering from a craniotomy stopping chronic sinusitis becoming seizure free. I had to stop facebook develop strong boundaries which is an ongoing process know when I need to say no. Learn cognitive...

I listen to a meditation called transforming fear every night. I take melatonin 10mg. My physicians know and it does not interact with anything else. A hot bath helps. Plus if I may add my fiancee

In the course of my recovery from bacterial meningitis of my brain health care providers therapists nurses emphasized safety and self- care first. As I grew to understand trauma more and codependency and narcissism and making a few mistakes getting involved with a few churches and individuals...

Thank you. To keep my relationship with another trauma survivor I need to remember this. We are still learning about each other.

Yes I did. Back in 2004. It was quick. Easier.

There is karma. I believe she knows on some level what she did and you having no contact is holding her accountable. Abusers usually have poor health. My father is accountable- his daughter is a legacy and his father's legacy. My grandfather died from epilepsy. I am after much work seizure free...

Ok- update. My partner is a trauma survivor like me. The incident I posted resulted from failure to communicate. We resolved it. He came close to death like me in his past. It is a very stressful time for everyone. He had ACE like me too.