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In my new relationship my partner pointed out large expenses then tied them to experiences in his last marriage. I immediately came up with corrective action( behavior mod) told him and he said I was being disrespectful. He raised his voice. He is always commenting on the state of our nation...

I began my search in march 2019. I understand seeking Africa's issues completely. I tried several dating apps. Found men wanting money phones gift cards or just sex right up front and nothing else. Finally felt like giving up then joined silver singles . Met a man who lives in my hometown. We...

I joined silver singles in march 2019. We met there. He lives in my home town. We met in person. He is employed FT a former air force para rescue EMT. I am a retired RN work as caregiver now. We share common interests world views. No abuse no red flags no substance abuse etc . We are believers...

I have CMS form 1763 to fill out and mail. Disenroll from Medicare- for me part b. I am close to choosing a direct primary care plan. I have learn that those on medicare get their health care determined by the us govt. The same govt that since late january has denied in many ways this pandemic...

I am in the process of investigating options to medicare and medicare advantage. I do not believe it is sustainable anymore due to covid19 and have come to believe it is welfare and the government controls health care and outcomes instead of patients and doctors. I am on SSDI yet work PT so I...

I am in a safe relationship with a man i met on a paid dating site. He lives in my hometown. We met and things are working. I have a crazy journey with online dating. He and I have similar world views life and love experiences. Since my last post a lot of good changes.

Thank you for these posts. I have a dog and I have had boundary issues with others. I appreciate being to read these and gain insight. I never support shaming or judging people. I do see how other people in our lives can be very dysfunctional and manipulative and not even know it. So perhaps the...

I am glad you are here. Be careful with physicians who want to overmedicate. Safety is very important. Saying no is scary but is empowering and creates safety. I hope you find a therapist you feel comfortable with. You will be successful in this journey. You are worth it.

Yes I used the word never going back to a church again. A service a group etc. After 59 years I need to recognize they are a trigger a place I pick up cognitive distortions get encouraged to be drawn in to codependent situations etc. A place I could be easily overwhelmed and then set up to...

Yes you are right. I do venture into black and white thinking. But with churches I am perhaps there after 59 years. Thank you.

Hello ronin. I thought I would give you an update. I am moved in. Have a new love seat ordered. Only 1 relationship. Firm boundaries set. I have no time money energy to give to people not moving forward blaming others not being accountable etc. Never attending a church again. So many people...

I am enforcing firm boundaries now. People are overstepping mine. They have been to told. I changed my behavior. I moved. Now they accept the consequences. I am tired of emotional vampires codependency narcissism. I work on me. .

The core beliefs are victimization powerlessness not obtaining knowledge and being grounded in reality codependency enabling etc. Not being willing to change in order to achieve a better outcome. I do not accept anything like this. But I work on it. I see it over and over. It is sometimes...

Hello hope4forus. My trauma began with bacterial meningitis of my brain a craniotomy multi organ failure sepsis almost dying. I understand what you are saying but I learned and was taught these skills and will always be. Bias cognitive distortions physiological depletion etc affects us. Our...

At my church service today - my final one- I learned Denise's daughter still has her grandchildren whereabouts unknown. The children's message was derived from jesus message of forgiveness except they were told to forgive people who take money and taxes from them unjustly. Wrong scriptural...

No recovery guy I am not. I pick up cognitive distortions red flags etc in churches sermons etc no matter where I go. I need to be free as so many people are finding out. I have my faith. It is enough.

Today I go to my so called church for the last time. My last time there another member who is a grandmother caring for 4 grandchildren because her daughter is caught in the cycle of addiction was there. The daughter had taken these 4 children away but was at our wednesday meal in some form of...

I do not care for the out right denial by the US government that this may become an issue. I began my nursing career in the early years of the AIDS crisis and the US government behaved the same way. Personal responsibility is important

If I can say thank you for your honesty. I am in a relationship. He has trust issues is a trauma survivor although he would not identify as that and I certainly am. We learn from the experiences of others

I feel your friends or colleagues exhibited entitlement mentality. And lack of boundaries. And you knew this. We do not exist to meet everyone needs. You do what is best and healthy for you

There are some things we recover from as trauma survivors that are accepted as " normal " in society and I can no no longer accept it. I have zero tolerance or close to it. Consider it a gift.